As you know, my Dad taught me to write! Cool. I found it really cool that my Dad reads my blog. Now my Dad and I have a great relationship, but he was upset by a few of the things he found here while perusing over 45 posts I have done since last year. My posts can be racy and informative, sexy and New Age…but for sure I think he gets a dose of worry when he considers the things going on in my wonderful life.
Maybe you can help me out on how in handling this situation. Check out a few of his opinions on my post… read his take and leave me a heartfelt comment.
What stuck out most is that my Dad believes that my blogs shine a bad light on me. He said I may not be a good role model and that my stuff is just ‘out there’ in terms of this open relationship piece, and especially the Valentine’s Day story. He said that people need a role model, they need to know that I am perfect or at least faking at perfect.
My Dad feels that clients can not come to a coach who has challenges.
Well Dad, I appreciate that. I see you as my mirror, I must somewhere inside be thinking the same thing. However, I am not down with the school of thought that says follow only those who are perfect.
A.) Because it is not working! B.) Because Perfect is not a noun, it is a verb. Evolution is the only form of Perfection I have ever known…
Perfect, in my book, means ever evolving. We all face challenges. The trouble with life coaching, psychological counseling is that often we have the idea that an expert is someone with no challenges…
This is demeaning in and of itself, we give our caregivers a God Complex when we think them to be perfect. It is similar to thinking that we have to go to a preacher to talk to God. Too much pressure and power. By the way, we see what has been exposed about the Catholic Priests who have tried to fake perfection for centuries only now to be exposed as boy abusers.
I guess the pressure was too great!
You see the old paradigm is about external appearances. He looks like a good person, she looks like a person with no challenges – we see how well that works in relationships. LOL!
I trust her because she seems to have an easy life. I like him because he seems easy going. But what has happens when we make it such that caregivers, clergy and politicians (for Goodness sake) have to be perfect is that we alienate them and set them up to fail us. We do ourselves a disservice. The alienation and pressure from needing to appear perfect is dreadful. Same goes for relationships. We too often want our partners to be perfect in every way when it is dynamic in every way that we should look for – ever changing, ever growing
Would you rather go to a psychologist who appears dutifully and perfect in the office all day and has a secret life of sex and drugs at night or a psychologist who shares his or her life like an open book with relevant understanding attached to the truths he exposes? – Growing all the while…
What makes an expert anyway? Is it not the same thing that makes a diamond? Pressure, weight and the exposure to harsh conditions to be overcome? We may be inspired to become experts by studying the successes and failures of others. But we actually BECOME experts when we experience our own successes and thrive through our challenges.
My objective in coaching is not fooling my clients into believing in a promised land where there are no more challenges. My job as coach is to aid others in understanding that we are ALL perfect in our evolution. I teach the meaning of evolution. As for relationships, my take is that the challenges are supposed to occur in order to shape us into evolved beings.
So to share my relationship challenges and show my thinking process through it all, that I am growing from this, that I understand this, integrate this and so forth is the only route to the ultimate goal – self realization. If I can demonstrate what self-realization looks like, surviving the challenges in a conscious way, adapting the lessons that come up for me and demonstrating that process, then I am doing my job.
My objective is simple, to demonstrate what personal development looks like rather than to preach it with no clue about what it really is. If the masses do not see that as valuable, and instead desire a Cosby show, sit-com approach where perfection is the goal, then my coaching is not for them.
I coach the real, the courageous and the conscious ones who know what life actually is. This is not a fairy tale or some type of game. We are all having REAL experiences that mean something. I share my real experiences because they are profoundly meaningful and full of wonderful lessons – as are your experiences. Too often, individuals are not trained to juice the moral to their own stories. We should relish in all of our stories, they have made us who and what we are. Just imagine if the entire world thought this way. Self doubt, personal guilt, and rabid self criticism would be no more. Guilt causes Cancer so we could heal that problem too!
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A MISTAKE. Every set back is a set up for a BIG comeback! So why hide challenges?
When we have a ‘bad’ experience and then realize the lesson and move on without guilt, fear, or anger, we thrive. This is what my blog demonstrates. And in terms of the open relationship piece, I am allowing the world to view my transformation from ownership, lack of communication and lack of integrity to something else, something new, what is it? I do not know, but I know I am enjoying the journey. Why can’t we all respect and enjoy our personal journey? Why is it a crime to share that journey with others. What are we all so ashamed of? Oh heaven forbid – is this some left over Biblical stuff?
Let’s look at Jesus while we are on that subject. The man went through some serious trials and tribulation. He was not ashamed to say he tossed the temple tables over with rage. He was not ashamed to show us his suffering in the end. While I may not subscribe to the fact that these stories or metaphors are even real, I do see the value in knowing another human being’s story. No one is saying OMG I cannot follow Jesus, he was an angry person. Sure he was a healer too, but the anger, that is bad, I cannot follow it. And by the way, he treated a whore with respect. For shame. How could he? Not a good role model.
We can run down the stories from Malcolm X – oh he was in jail, Martin Luther King – oh he was a cheater – Marcus Garvey – oh he believed in having more than one wife, Clinton – a cheater, Obama – a smoker – Michael Baisen, he left his wife! Oprah is nice, but she has an eating disorder, Michelle Obama – she was an angry militant… (you know then people just start lying).
LOL!
I simply will not accept this. It is sheer folly. My Dad told me that we should be more like Barack and Michelle. (Although he was just talking about being focused) Well, I believe that my husband and I are just as focused and stunning as Michelle and Barack. We are breaking new territory just as Bo and Chelle did. I am breaking the old crap that says men and women who cheat are just BAD people – maybe there is another way – there are 500,000,000 possible ways of managing relationships besides sticking to a puritanical, outdated, outmoded, simplistic, rigid, socially constructed, format for relationships that does not work 66% of the time and then beating ourselves up mentally for ‘cheating’ or being cheated on.
Barack and Michelle appear to have no relationship issues, that is true. But what does that do to the average Joe? How does it make people who do not have gleaming perfection (or the appearance of such) look and feel? It makes them feel like failures for not having a ‘good’ relationship. If Barack and Michelle were to express some of the challenges that they SURELY have to the public, maybe the youth would begin to know that all people have challenges and that these are a part of life, a good part of life, and that we can – any of us – accomplish anything when we use our challenges to our advantage and leverage them for the lesson. YES WE CAN.
I am not buying it Daddy. I will not fall back to a broken tradition solely based on fear of change. You taught me to eat fear for breakfast! But I do know that what you said you say out of LOVE. I do know that you are my mirror and that I too have asked myself, would it be good to share myself in this way or as a life coach should I put up the appearance that I am perfect? Oh believe me it would be easy to sit here and lie to all of you. And maybe that would be more comforting?
I stood at that crossroad already and I made a choice. I asked myself this question – What would I want in a coach? Let us say it is a business coach? Do I want a business coach who has never been broke like I used to be? Do I want one who has never failed at a venture? If I do, why is that? He or she would not be able to assist me when I reach the hard part. What if I had to file for bankruptcy? He or she would not even understand that. They would essentially and probably secretly believe that I have failed and so then how could they respect me enough to coach me?
Think of the Rich Dad Poor Dad series. Mr. Kiosaki (I can not spell) discusses all of his failures. He tells us even of his current failures as the housing bubble bursts. He knows that there is really no such thing as failure, just growth when properly contextualized.
When new clients, especially women, come my way, I have the tools to support them because the first tool is empathy. I can empathize with women because I have been there. No woman can talk to me about a cheating man, a broke man, a selfish man, a lazy man, an abusive man, a wondering man – NO man can they really talk to me about that I have not lived with myself. I lived it, I unraveled it, they can read my stories and they know it works! They also know that I am on to the next challenge. There will never be a day when I am not working on my own stuff. This is the mark of a good coach if you ask me.
The best is ALWAYS yet to come and as we speak I unravel more and more that I will someday share jewels of wisdom for those who want to speak to a woman who has conquered it all! I am conquering anger, jealousy, ownership, and CONTROL. I have already conquered pseudo-masculinity, disrespect, lack of trust, and fear. As for now – I am in the thick of working out an age old issue – what to do about the desire to love more, maybe more than one person? How do we deal with these feelings – I mean ALL OF US? I think it is a good one – you yourself, my father and my king, have been there too, right? Let me blaze a trail Daddy. I love you!
Light to you!
Kenya K
PS – By the way, my Dad gave me a good idea. He told me to write about the protocols that might be needed to really run a good open relationship without the problems that arise from jealousy, mismanagement, and short sightedness. I will do that – coming soon… He also wants to know what happened with the photographer in the long run. Are we playing with relationships or forming real meaningful ties with other human beings. All of that is coming soon.
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February 24th, 2009 at 4:02 am
congratulations. when I was a teen, they called the paper versions a journal or diary. my parents found mine, were confused about it and didn’t care for the content of it, and so disposed of it . . . . I forgave them.
Happy writing . . .
February 24th, 2009 at 1:41 pm
I’d love to comment, since you’re asking for our opinion. I must admit, I’m hesitant. It seems I’m the only one that has the guts to oppose your views publicly…lol. And, the last time I did so, I don’t feel my views were understood, they were misconstrued (i.e. I don’t have a problem with your husband at all, lol…that wasn’t my point)…but, nonetheless, here goes…
I see where your dad is coming from. In your PS…you said that he suggested you share some protocols on how to be successful in an open relationship. This is exactly what I was trying to articulate in my first comment to the valentine’s day story. Because so far, you’re not making a good case for it. The stories you’ve been sharing tell a story of how it’s a huge struggle and it isn’t working.
Also…I’m kinda glad you shared that story because you really showed how dedicated you are in keeping your relationship together, at any cost. I don’t necessarily share this view. I want to be happy. And, if something is causing me so much distress that I begin to lose my mind, I’m going to leave. Nothing is worth my health or my life. There’s only so far I’m willing to go. Perhaps I’ll come back next lifetime to do it. Kudos to you, but I’m just not that dedicated.
That being said…I think your dad was trying to say to you that in sharing some of these stories, you may lose clients or lose potential clients because yes, your beliefs are out there. But, I say, be yourself! It’s best that people know up front the type of service you offer and the type of views and opinions you have because that does affect the advice and counsel that you give.
So, it all depends on what you want. If you were simply money hungry, perhaps you would lie and paint a pretty picture. But, I believe you want HONESTY…and in that case, I love that you are so brave and vulnerable…and I think you’ll be successful for that.
February 24th, 2009 at 6:30 pm
I agree with the above comment.
You actually lost me as a client and admirer because of many of your posts. It’s one thing to believe that your life works for you (I know many people who are in polyamourous relationships that work- for them) but it’s another thing to imply (or state) that those who don’t understand or have human feelings of jealousy or monogamy are somehow less enlightened. I also believe your choices influence how you coach. Most coaches coach from the point/place of wanting your client to be better versions of themselves, you seem to coach from the place of wanting your clients to be versions of you or to mirror your relationship. Most of your relationship advice hinges on your belief that monogamy doesn’t work. And that’s fine but that’s YOUR opinion. If you want to have that standpoint or view, then it should come from the place where you’re only coaching people who are in or looking for polyamourous relationships. Not to mention the fact, that I really do believe that your opinions and advice are usually skewed towards the woman being at fault for not listening to our catering to or agreeing with their mates more. It goes both ways and you seem to always come from the “my man is always right” place. Which again, is fine for you, but I think it leaves you very very biased. I was also very insulted by your blog on Chris Brown/Rhianna you never seem to hold men accountable.
February 24th, 2009 at 6:31 pm
Crap. I lost my train of thought.
I do think that it’s better for you to be authentically who you are so that people know what they’re getting and it allows you to breathe from that place. Fathers always want to protect their baby girls so though I agree with his why, i don’t agree with his suggestions. You should let folks know who you are and let them, like I did, make the decision.
February 24th, 2009 at 7:05 pm
Thank you for your delicious comments! I am going to Twitter this and get the discussion really going on! I see all of this as a reflection of thoughts I have within me. (((JUICY))) Just as I said about my Dad and his comments – it is all me! I secretly and sub-consciously believe that who am I may not be what I need to be to do the work that I do and so here it is, in live technicolor as the world watches – here it is to show me the old parts of me that must be purged…
I think that there are more who feel just the way the anonymous commenter does and the way Tiko feels. In other words there are many more parts of me that feel this way (((deep within))) to be removed. Layers and layers of old thought patterns, self judgment, and inner doubt.
I feel as though this is an awakening of mass proportion!! Thank you for participating!!
It is true – I do not hold men accountable. No one is accountable for my happiness. No one can make me unhappy. This has been the issue in relationships in this eroded culture. No one is responsible for my happiness. Happiness comes from within. Everyone says it in Cliche format – but who lives it? But as soon as the stuff hits the fan, we blame one another and the relationship is in jeopardy. We leave a man because he wasn’t making us happy anymore when the real truth is – we simply are not happy – from within – bottom line. If we were, no one, no where and in no way could shake that…
Futhermore if we reflect that happiness into the world, we would attract it right back. We get ONLY ONLY ONLY what we give. SO there is NEVER a violation. Why is that so difficult to accept? It is quite empowering to me. That is Universal Law it keeps the world in order. I LOVE it! You?
Isn’t that in the Bible? Man, I need to study. The golden rule, do unto others as you would want them to do unto you? Why? Because Karma is TRUE. You only get YOU – from all of us, yo man too, YOU!
I do not feel that human feelings are bad like jealousy and so forth. I am simply stating that I want shift each of these energies in me, so that they do not control me. I am a Cancer survivor, I know that all illnesses are rooted in negative emotion. Guilt, anger, jealousy and so forth may be something people in this culture call ‘human’ but I believe that these are simply energies that have a negative and positive version of themselves and can be re channeled at any moment so that they do not cause the end of families and communities and even friendships. There is no need for it. Jealousy is just the dark side of compersion – a concept that means actually being happy when others win, happy when others are happy – I have chosen to shift my vibration upward so that I can feel the opposite of the negative emotions that surface – first by getting to the reasons I feel negatively (probably childhood pain past hurt) and then shifting my vibration up up and away into new levels of BLISS… I will never accept that I HAVE TO feel jealous – I am human – NON SENSE.
Besides, I am a Goddess! LOL!
In doing so I do not feel that those who do not choose to shift are not enlightened. How could I? When I fail at it, like my hilarious Valentines Day story, I do not feel unenlightened, I feel like I am growing because I am MINDFUL that I had a choice – so I am perfect! Yes? And no one caused me to feel badly, I choose, I am the chooser…
We are all at different levels of growth but none of us are any better than the other. What if I totally blamed myself and felt doomed just because I experienced jealousy last Sunday afternoon? I would not be able to move forward in life, that would leave me stagnate and stagnation leads to death. But it still would not make me unenlightened or BAD…just dead as a doornail or empty on the inside (same thing).
Monogamy works for 34% of Americans in this country. That is great for them! I want it to work for more who desire it! I enjoyed it for 13 years! However how foolish would you feel I were if I came home and said MOM I got a 34% on this test! I PASSED! No, you would say, honey you have some serious work to do to get a passing grade! Maybe we should look for some alternatives, tuturing, extra help, support and so forth. She may have to choose from a few possible angles, but she would choose one or a few options and get that child support. I am currently focused on blazing a new trail… for me and my marriage. I do not advise anyone to take this path because there is no path there yet! Blazing a trial is for the unusually gifted LOL!
In fact, I had to go through 13 years of monogamy to have the foundation to even attmept this. Hell, I did not even trust my husband for the first 12 years of our marriage, not really. No one taught me to trust a man! No one taught me to love a man, myself, my Universe… so loads of foundational work has gotten us to this point.
I love where my husband and I are in our relaitonship, but I always say a few things: (you can check back through my blogs) This is not for everyone. This is not for those who are running away from their relationships to find something better. This is not for the faint of heart and this is not for the unevolved. This is not for those who have not connected to their primary mate. This is not for those seeking more sex. SO forth…
If that is offensive, I am so sorry, but I would be irresponsible to state that this hasn’t taken years and years of focused work for me to even talk this way. I did not want this, never envisioned this – but again. We choose our mates, we chose our lives, we chose our paths, we create reality with out expectations and thoughts and we have all come to Earth to deliver our talents to the world. This situation is helping me to deliver mine for those who care to check out JujuMama, which is appernelty over 200 people per day!
There are 6 Billion people on this planet. Those who need me and resonate here will be here. I LOVE that about life, there is room for everyone. I do not knock Muslims, or Christians, or Buddists or Atheists – for I know that they are all on a differnt path to the same place – as we are all ONE BEING. I honor you and your beliefs and I love you for being my mirrors Tiko and oh silent one – and believe me – all paths lead to truth! Yours is relevant too! I LOVE LOVE LOVE YOU!
Blissful Blessings!
JujuMama
xoxoxo
February 24th, 2009 at 8:40 pm
So….I’ve been following u for about a month and i must say that I do find your posts quite intriguing. As for those who commented before me, I understand their perceptions– as they are the views of many of my peers, but I view you (Juju) in a different light.
On the surface, sure, you might seem easily-led or too submissive (to the many INDEPENDENT-ain’t-no-man-gonna-ever-run-my-life sistas out there), BUT the facts remain (as my experience has showed me):
1. Men NEED to feel like “THE Man”.
2. Women innately make up for that which men lack.
3. Some (read: MOST) women lose respect for men because they take on their responsibilities coupled with those of their own.
TO ALL OF THIS YOU SPEAK TRUTH.
Many of your stories could have been pulled from my life. I am in my early twenties and have been with my man for the past 5 years. We started living together about 1 year ago– venturing toward marriage. Things hadn’t been going too well– in fact, our relationship was DEFINITELY on the rocks (to say the least) Recently, I’ve tried letting my man be “THE MAN” and applying some of the concepts/principles/theories that I’ve read here. I must admit, I cannot BEGIN to tell you how much easier things have been. My man and I are HAPPY….i mean TRULY HAPPY.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t agree with him on EVERYTHING but I do serve him LOTS of “Yes Honey” and when I can’t or REALLY don’t want to, instead of emasculating him with demands and orders and what I AIN’T GONNA DO, I tell him how I feel and what I CAN do in a manner that is pleasant and less “sister-with-an-attitude-dont-ask-me-to-do-another-damn-thing-for-you-lazy-black-man” (read: confrontational).
So: I’ve started letting him handle our finances (<- the HARDEST THING EVER FOR ME), pay the bills, cook (sometimes), do the laundry and found time FOR MYSELF.
Now: as for you being PERFECT:
I don’t believe anyone on this Earth was made perfect or will ever BE perfect…I also agree with you that no one wants someone who is “PERFECT” coaching them about life. I would much rather prefer someone who teaches from EXPERIENCE. Would you rather have a heart surgeon fresh out of medical school, or someone who has been practicing for years? This, my dear, you do well.
One more thing (before I go):
I know you may lose a lot of people when you begin to broach the subject of your Open Relationship. I must admit, I was a bit turned off by this theory….in fact, I almost decided not to follow your advice because of the way that you approach the subject. This is where i agree with the ladies above me. I do find your views on monogamous relationships as slightly condescending….I think your Dad was right in the assertion that you should show ur audience a model relationship or the framework/principles that need to be in play in order to avoid the problems that arise from jealousy, mismanagement, and short sightedness. Perhaps some of your clients that are in monogamous relationships can apply some of these ideologies in their relationship…we’ll call it “a progressive relationship”. lol.
Glad to finally comment. See you here again soon:)
February 24th, 2009 at 9:46 pm
Great post and comment Bukes!
I can understand some of the comments because anyone who comes to you for coaching will do all of the work. LOL! It can be painful, but I have to say it is the most empowering way to go. It’s not just women, but anyone. Many-a-man have had shouting matches with you over taking your advice and seeing themselves as the key to their own success in relationships. “You are the one you’ve been waiting for” – Mikuak Rai. It’s so funny when the guys try to play that victim card with you – classic stuff. Maybe you will illustrate when you write Part 2 of the Chris/Rhiana article with you coaching Chris Brown.
The same goes for me when I am coahching men or women – they always get the heavy lift and the big assignment. In the Organic Bliss seminar when I was lecturing the men on what they had to do as men in their relationships, it was all about taking care of, strengthening, and nurturing their women. That was at the top of the hierarchy for them – focusing on your mate. Why? Because if you do that then she will return the favor and you will build trust, respect, and love. I gave them real work, like spend 3-4 hours at a time pouring your undivided time and attention into her. That’s just the way it goes. It doesn’t mean she is right all the time; actually, that is irrelevant. It just means that you (the man) are unhappy; therefore, you (the man) needs to make the change. Pure and simple.
In terms of monogamy, I think you share my view that any relationship structure can work – mono, poly, uni, etc and any combination of human being 1 man-1 woman, 1 woman-1 woman, 1 man-1 man, 2 men-10 women, 2 women-10 men, and on and on. Point is, the relationship structure doesn’t make a difference either way and it doesn’t change the work required. It’s basically whatever mature adults choose to do and can handle, but the daily choices and growth are there regardless.
Thanks to everyone for their input.
RS
February 25th, 2009 at 12:09 pm
Where do I begin? I first connected with this woman 15 years ago. Then, as now, she’s always “pushed the envelope” when it comes to her beliefs and challenging others to examine their own…brings to mind Stevie Wonder’s “Superstition.” So many of us believe in things that we don’t understand and suffer. This woman has always had the courage to question and seek/receive the answers. Yes, she is passionate about her beliefs, some might say a bit bull-headed at times (a label I’m all too familiar with peeling off
Call her what you want, just make sure you include brave, honest and self-actualized. Personally, those are the kind of people that inspire me.
Kenya’s style of coaching isn’t for everyone. Each of us is at different phases along our evolutionary path. There is no hierarchy. None “better” than the other. Folks simply are where they are. That said, some individuals prefer to live in a realm of fantasy where there IS a hierarchy looking “up” to others (like Barry & Chelle) who are “seemingly” perfect and live their life to the letter of The Word (in most cases the Bible, which Jesus NEVER WROTE one word of but I digress). I find that those that prefer that fantasy realm are often riddled with guilt, fear and insecurities that, from an outsider’s POV, often leave them living a life that is unhappy and unfulfilled. They create all of these unrealistic measurements for their success and when they fail, they are miserable. Oftentimes, this leaves them mired in even more guilt, fear and (add to that) shame for not living up to their expectations. From where I sit, it’s a perpetual cycle. One that I’m not interested in continuing.
The world truly is our mirror in many ways. Like Kenya’s loving Dad, I have a loving Mother that often cautions me about revealing my “true” views on a variety of issues (even though she’s said she admires me for this). They are afraid for us. Afraid of the labels that some folks like to place on others and the limitations that can ensue (if you allow others to define you). I get that. Also, I believe that something in the UNIversal consciousness wants to dissolve that type of consciousness that’s resulted in generational cycles of abuse, depression, fear, poverty, etc. that don’t serve the evolution of “higher” consciousness (higher = using different, rarely charted dimensions of awareness). That’s why lightBEings like Kenya have entered this life…to help lead folks out of those cycles and spiral ^^^ into a more peaceful, loving, harmonious way of BEing. Remember, we are in the Age of Aquarius. Change can hurt. It can be difficult to step outside a comfort zone, even when the comfort zone hurts. I commend Kenya and Carl for sharing their journey and stepping outside of their comfort zone to redefine their marriage and grow. I’d much rather have a mentor, coach, friend, whatever you want to call it, that acknowledges and shares their successes and failures. It let’s me know that THEY KNOW through their experience what can be overcome and achieved. The only fantasy I’m interested in involves visualizing the life of my dreams which I believe already exists in a beautiful, quantum parallel universe.
As for the anonymous Jane Doe that previously posted, I can understand how one might interpret K’s approach as placing “blame” on the woman in relationships. I know that’s not Kenya’s intention although it does come across that way at times. We’re all growing. Perfect in our imperfections Bottom line…Kenya, as she so eloquently stated in her response, charges the woman (or man) to be responsible for her own joy and happiness. The biggest battle we face is with ourselves and that’s what her methods encourage you to do. Dissolve the blockages that you’ve erected to your happiness via self-examination and accountability.
I’ll end here. I can be a bit long-winded. Hakashamut, keep doing what you’re doing. You’ve got the support and protection of loving guides and souls on every side. Oh, let me share a nugget my maternal grandmother, Roxie “Ma Rock” Jewell, use to say about men, “Unless you cooked one and ate him, Honey, ain’t nothing you can tell me about a man.” LOL…you have my permission to use ;>
SFS 4 LIFE, Baby!!! Keep Shining! Keep Blooming!
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Sending you and your family~*~Zenfinite♥Luv+۞Light, xxxoooxxx
February 25th, 2009 at 3:01 pm
Wow…I really AM the only one with the guts to publicly disagree or question something you say! LMAO…come on people!! How can we learn without questioning? How can we learn without HONEST dialog? LOL…
I just wanted to come back and say that I have been a student/client/friend of Kenya’s for almost a year now. I’m so thankful and grateful for her guidance. She has helped me tremendously with issues I was having in my life and relationships. I can say that I am FINALLY seeing the light, FINALLY seeing the results. I couldn’t be happier right now. I have put in some WOOOOOOORK!! It’s not easy at all folks!!
There are some things I don’t agree with, but hell…you agrees with everything someone says? When I have people in my life that agree with EVERYTHING I say, I start to question their thinking ability…lol!! There’s nothing wrong with that. I love it! I won’t throw the baby out with the bathwater…lol. I know that at this point in my life…I’m only willing to go so far in the work. And, that’s okay. That’s me excersizing my free will. Perhaps later I’ll be ready and willing to go further…but, for right now I’m happy right here.
Love you!!
April 8th, 2009 at 2:40 am
Rock on. Stand in your truth and discuss real options. I’m currently into monogamy, but you present the information here from your heart and you are witty, too. Thank you for what you are doing – it is helping me liberate myself from basic sexual shame.
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Much love to you & yours,
Amy