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I love Physics.  In fact when I completed my degree at Howard University I thought of going back to get a Masters in Physics!  I never did, but I educated myself on these very important laws… One of which is a lover’s dream law!

Here it is…

For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.

YUMMY! Right?  This law of physics most certainly applies in love.  Physics is the study of matter.  The basis of matter is energy.  Energy is the wonderful thing that makes a relationship tick.  This summer our tour focused on applying this gem of a law to our love lives…

If every action creates an equal and opposite reaction, then whatever you do in the relationship – or whatever energy you inject into the lovely affair – will be returned in it’s opposite and equal proportion from your mate.

Thus, it becomes simple to create a better partner – notice I did not say a new partner, I said a better partner.  People change – the nature of life is change so never think that your partner can’t change – he or she must!  That is another handy law of the Universe… “Everything must change”  If you are single, this will work in your dating life as well, create an ideal partner!

Our Sexiest Seminar Tour centered around our in-house concept of four YIN attributes and four YANG attributes which are listed below.  If you want to make a man into a MAN – it is easy to do… be a WOMAN!  Same for guys, if you want a WOMAN – be it’s equal and opposite – A MAN!

Yin|Yang Archetypes Chart © 2009 JujuMama LLC

Yin Attributes  ——————Yang Counterparts

Conservationist ——————-  Soldier (protector)

Lover ——————————- Negotiator (communicator)

Devotee (follower) —————-Leader

Visionary (optimist) ————–Monk (planner)

Here’s how it works…

For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction!

The science is relatively simple… Ladies First…

Create a Planner – If you want a (Monk) planner, which is the first male archetype in our YIN/YANG system… a man who thinks about tomorrow and includes you in the plans.  A man who actually informs you, gingerly, about what his plans for you are… a man who states his intentions…  you have to do three things… Its all about being an OPTIMIST!

A.    Don’t make any plans
B.    Trust that the plans he makes will work out
C.    Meet his plans with optimism (even if the plan sounds senseless, wild, or just plain deft)

If you do these three things, you are a good Visionary (optimist).  You listen, you’re full of faith and you demonstrate that you appreciate his planning process (no matter how small or large).  In this way, you create an equal and opposite reaction!

Furthermore, if you stop making plans, you will automatically create a void in the relationship for him to fill.   Your trust and acceptance of his plans (that means no questions or debate) will produce more and more planning on his part!  He’ll love to share his ideas and objectives for the relationship with you!  Try this one for a few weeks and see how well things work!  Don’t even make the slightest plans – let him step into his role as YANG.

(NOTE: If you are gay or lesbian – same principle works – all you have to do is decide who is yang and who is yin in your relationship?)

Create a Leader – If you want a better leader in your relationship, you can have it.  All you have to do it FOLLOW:

A.    Don’t take the leadership position (even in small matters)
B.    Follow the leadership of your yang counterpart (no matter how small or large)
C.    Simply follow… Refrain from going back and forth with your mate when he asks that you follow the plan.

These are very challenging ideas, but guess what?  If you can sustain this receptivity for long enough, your mate will begin to take the leadership position all of the time.  Again, this is all based on the Law of Physics mentioned earlier… Equal and Opposite reaction!  You have to try this one on for size!  Let me know how it works for you!

Create a Negotiator – this is a man (or yang partner) who knows how to communicate, he knows how to introduce you in public, he knows what to say to people in the world like YOUR PARENTS, your friends, your co-workers, he has the gift of gab!  He’s fabulous!  Most important, like any good talker,  he knows how to route money directly to your home using his negotiation skills!  You want this type of man in your life and all men have this potential deep inside.  Now it’s up to you to create it in your man!

Here’s the science – BE A LOVER!

1. Tone your talking down in public, allow him to speak up at clubs, restaurants and so forth, let him settle things with the waiter, the hostess and at the entrance to the club.
2. Dress well and keep yourself in a smile. In public and in private, work to be sweet, relaxed and Divalicious!
3. Compliment your man (or yang counterpart) when he does these things well, compliment your man after you make love with him, and keep your man high on your sweet words, sparse but sweet!

In this way you will create an equal and opposite reaction.  He will WANT to introduce you, represent you and speak on your behalf.  You seem to need it, expect it, and love it!  The compliments will boost his ego so that he feels like the King that he actually IS!  You’ll love the way he begins to open to his role of negotiator… His manners will shot through the roof!  And so will the bank balance!  YUMMY!

Create a Protector – Ladies LOVE a protective, strong, man who loves to serve and give!  Right?  Well, I surely do.  This is the type of man who gives strong love in the bedroom as well as providing strong protection, and security for his woman.  He loves to be the one who saves the day and nothing pleases him more than seeing you happy!  YUMMY!
So how do you create this even from a man who has not exhibited these behaviors in the past?  Well, that’s an easy one…

Be Conservative ~ Be self-focused ~  Internal

1. Take impeccable care of yourself FIRST.  Always think of yourself first!
2. Don’t do anything that you feel is too difficult for you, rather, ask him for help! (I didn’t say order him to do these things – ask for help in a sweet, helpless manner.  Need him!)
3. Be sure to care for your environment. Make sure the internal areas of your home are well kept and that you feel as good as your home looks.                                                                                                                                                                                                                              Again, if you need help, ask! You might say, “ I really can’t handle all of this housework – I need a plan… Can you help me honey?  Make sure you are only doing what you can – and only AFTER you are caring for yourself impeccably so that you are happy and relaxed…

Many women are too busy to practice self-care.  My question is, why are we so busy?  Are you working to remain independent because we are afraid to need anyone’s help?  Or are we working because we HAVE too?  Think about that one.  Another issue here is that women often do the male and female work in the home and in the world.  Don’t do any job that is his job, and do not complain that nothing is getting done.  Which is more important, your health and wellness, your intimacy with your mate, or the garbage being taken out today…the kitchen being clean?

If you want to ease back on any of your work, make it known.  “I am working too hard.  I need to relax more, what do you suggest my king?”  I mean, why not?  It’s time to shift to internal self-care so that you can create the opposite – SOMEONE ELSE to care for the external work!  LOL!

For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction!

Men, you can do the same thing with your lady – hopefully you are trying to get your woman to be more feminine, rather than more masculine!  I have heard some men say that they want in independent woman – a woman who works just as hard as he does… I think this is learned thought rather than authenticity… but anywhooo.  Here is how you can make your woman into a Goddess!  This is the JujuMama Creed!

Create a Lover – if you want a better lover you can have it!  Even if your woman is the most prude, closed, non-orgasmic lover in the world!  Even if she has never given you a public or private compliment.. You can create better by doing the following…

BE a Negotiator!

1. Represent in public! Introduce your woman as your girlfriend or wife.  Even if you have to fake it, be proud that she is your woman!
2. Speak for your lover in public – don’t let her do everything – step up and be the voice of the family… grab her hand and pull her away from any talking position, speak for her, order for her, pay for her, be the negotiator of the family…
3. Tell your woman how you feel about her often, be corny, goofy and foolishly romantic, women love to laugh. Tell her she is the center of your world.
4. Make That Money! Make sure that all of her needs are taken care of.  If you can’t do it financially right now, that is OK, practice makes perfect.  The more you have this intention, the more money will come to you – easily!

If you do these things, you will easily create an equal and opposite reaction.  By making her yours in these ways listed above, she will begin to become yours in every way.  She will want to look good for you, honor you and give you the good loving that you have earned!  I promise it is true!  Ladies, can ya’ll tell em please!

Create a follower – Believe it or not, women want to follow men.  Yin wants to follow Yang!  All you have to do to create a woman who will never go back and forth with you, never argue you down and will accept your leadership is be a leader!  Here is how it looks…

A.    Take responsibility for everything that happens in the relationship. Provide solutions when things are out of sync.

B.    Catch issues before they get blown out of proportion. If you see your woman moping around, grab her hand and ask her to tell you what is wrong, if she says nothing, NEVER believe her!  Take her hand, pull her to you, and give some affection.  If she pushes back, pull her nearer and tell her that you care and then ask her again “Tell me what is wrong”.

C.    Lead!  Don’t allow your woman to run the show, tell her to calm down and that you ‘got dis” tell her to just relax and let you handle it.  If she fights this, hug her…  She will quiet down… believe me…
Now this may take a moment to shift, because women are trained to be very powerful leaders in the USA.  However, we don’t always want to do it, we just feel we have to.  So allow her to witness your new behavior for a while, pretty soon, it will elicit the equal and opposite response.  She will submit to your leadership and there will be fewer arguments and squabbles than ever!

Create a Conservationist – all men seem to want a happy woman.  Well, a happy woman is one who is maintaining herself physically, spiritually and emotionally.  She has to have time to care for herself and she usually needs permission to do it, as women are inherently givers…

So make it happen soldier!

A.    Be very externally focused! Focus on providing; focus on giving and being of service to your woman.
B.    Open to giving more time and energy in the bedroom. Now that you have your woman willing and open to share her love, be present with her!  Be strong and eager to please.

C.    Take care of things that are too much for your woman. If she is too busy doing too many things, ask her to do less – as well, take up some of the slack without her having to ask.  If she needs real help – hire it!  Stop her incessant DOING.

If you do these three things, you will bring forth the equal and opposite reaction in her.  She will begin to focus more internally, on herself and then on the internal environment.  She will begin to take time for herself, she will feel relieved and light!  She will easily become happier and more fulfilled in general.  This is the law of the Universe.  For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction!

Create a Visionary – this one is the easiest of them all!  Your woman wants to trust you, but she has never learned to do that.  Just as you have never learned how to elicit the responses you desire from her, she doesn’t know that trusting you will bring forth the part of you that is trustworthy!  So here is the rub:

Become a Planner (Monk)!
A.    Plan, look to the future with her in mind and share your plans with her.
B.    Have help – get counselors, financial managers, real estate consultants and so forth to support you in making those plans so that you know the pans are solid.
C.    Do not go to your mate with a blank slate asking her what she thinks the two of you should do… if you do this, she will become the planner and then resent it later – she wants you to come up with the plans and you can do that!  YES YOU CAN!

If you become that planner, that forward thinker, that lovely, man who is on top of your stuff, she will begin to trust you.  She may not be as optimistic in the beginning, but once she sees that this is your normal modus operende, she will be write pleased!  Even a woman, who has never trusted you prior, will begin to trust.  Be patient with this one, as I noted, women have a difficult time trusting men these days.

So how simple is this?  Really simple right!

Try it people!  You know I love you and I am utterly in love with love!  I have used these principles in my marriage and have shared them all over the country.  These are fabulous!  And they work!  Let me know how well they work for you…

And hay, give it time and patience… We are walking boldly into a new paradigm in Love…

Bliss and Light!

Kenya K

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