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WOW! This is the first year in 14 years that I did not have birthday sex. Usually I trip about the entire thing. This year, I have evolved… My husband was out doing a tantra session after our HUGE DC Event last night. The Sexiest Seminar went long in DC and then we had an after party on U Street. Fabulous!
After the after party, there was a woman who wanted a personal tantra session. My husband reluctantly asked me if it was OK to do this on my birthday, I suppose he recounted the years I have gone completely ballistic when he ignored my conditioned behavior pattern of wanting sex specifically on my birthday. He recalls the times I tripped out when it didn’t seem to be forthcoming. He seemed fearful in the asking, but I said YES. YES, go and have a session with this lovely young lady. This is your job…
We cannot serve our purpose when anchored to a prevailing mindset that does not serve our purpose ~ J.S. Perkins
Wow – so last night was interesting. I had a couple to counsel whom are on the verge of divorce. I love these two human beings, they are both so wonderful. However, like most of us, they are unwilling to go beyond their comfort zones. She is unwilling to even consider a reconciliation because she is so angry and hurt. I do not know what he is unwilling to do. So far he has been willing to do just about anything I suggest, maybe his unwillingness was in the relationship – he was passive aggressive and had done loads of covert things to her that she is now fed up with… She called it manipulation.
And it ain’t just them, it’s so many couples going through similar issues. Years and years of built up emotion, unresolved and unsettled stuff just looming in the minds of both partners… I think it is imperative that we get these things out on the table. I do it through a process I call the Three Way Mirror. Now to just get her to come along and participate…
OK – so yesterday’s post got NO comments! The 142 people, maybe women, who read it were as silent as mice. LOL! All the ladies were like, ump, that is not me! I do not posses any, not one, of the ten traits. Well, maybe there were a few honest ones who sent personal emails – Thank you DIVAS! But I got far more personal mail that denoted the need for the man’s list!
OK
Why is it that as soon as I talk about what women need to shift in relationships, the women say “Well, what does the man need to do?” It seems we have a feeling of powerlessness. Feminine Energy is very powerful! Women are the center of the Home and the center of the Creative Universe! If we make changes – MEN make changes. You did see this story about the Kenyan women who went on a sex fast to end war, correct? And by no means do I suggest a sex fast, but I am saying!
Anyway, because I love ALL DIVAS, I decided to create the man’s list today.
Men – if you are having any one of the symptoms below – CALL JUJUMAMA! We can work it out so that you can have the respect you so desire!
10 clues that men need a little loving support in the relationship department:
1. You have often found yourself calling women ‘golddiggers’ and wish to have an independent woman who will not need you to secure her or take care of her financial needs.
2. You have often desired your mate to be the sexual aggressor. Your libido is not so steady and you need her to show you that she wants you a little bit more.
Here are 10 ways you can tell if you need to Manifest a little more Sexy in your life!
Do you or someone you know – your best friend *wink* – have any ONE of these concerns?
If you, oops, I mean she has even ONE ~ It’s time for some JujuPower in your life!
This one is for the ladies… Men – yours is coming soon!
Do you share even ONE of the following:
1. Every time you get into a relationship, the same old bad habits surface in you and the man you are dealing with. You are finding yourself living a life of repeating patterns.
2. You find that you are angry at men in general. How do you know? You disrespect men with words, you push men away from you, you treat men badly, you try to become a player, you feel men have nothing to offer you. You are generally a very dominant woman due to past pain and anger. Bless your heart!
New paradigm thought is not like the old stuff. Gone are the days when we could cut the fool all week and then go to church on Sunday to be ‘forgiven’. That is a dying school of thought that lacks the component of human beings take 100% responsibility for the creation of LIFE. New Paradigm Thought does not suggest the absence of a higher power. It simply denotes the fact that a higher power infused itself into us and placed us here to grow through experiences to achieve heaven on Earth rather than after death… (no such thing as death, then?)
Here are a few remnants of that dying thing called the Western Relationship Paradigm with the emerging counterparts:
- Blame vs Responsibility
- Shame vs Tolerance
- Envy vs Acceptance
- Jealousy vs Compersion
- Grudges vs Empathy
- Anger vs Joy
Lets begin with the obvious. You chose that lover of yours now didn’t you? When things get hard, which they will, the first thing we do as Westerners is blame the other person or blame ourselves! Neither of these are going to work much longer. As Aquarius makes her way back to Earth, we are drawn in a new, sexy, direction.
Taking 100% responsibility for the situation is so liberating!
Often clients say ‘Well, Kenya K, why should I take 100% responsibility – isn’t that man or that woman 50% of the problem if not more?’. My response to them is simple. New Paradigm thought [which is actually ancient, holistic thought] is based on the fact that we all exist in our own Universe – Parallel Universes! My Universe is MINE. Everything that happens to me is a part of my Universe. Everything that happens to my mate is occurring in his Universe. So, in essence, when some shit goes down, we both have 100% responsibility for it.
When we view life in this way, we are making room for the obvious – World Peace!
Check this out…My “shamefully evolved” weekend story!
