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Posts Tagged ‘communication’
OK – so yesterday’s post got NO comments! The 142 people, maybe women, who read it were as silent as mice. LOL! All the ladies were like, ump, that is not me! I do not posses any, not one, of the ten traits. Well, maybe there were a few honest ones who sent personal emails – Thank you DIVAS! But I got far more personal mail that denoted the need for the man’s list!
OK
Why is it that as soon as I talk about what women need to shift in relationships, the women say “Well, what does the man need to do?” It seems we have a feeling of powerlessness. Feminine Energy is very powerful! Women are the center of the Home and the center of the Creative Universe! If we make changes – MEN make changes. You did see this story about the Kenyan women who went on a sex fast to end war, correct? And by no means do I suggest a sex fast, but I am saying!
Anyway, because I love ALL DIVAS, I decided to create the man’s list today.
Men – if you are having any one of the symptoms below – CALL JUJUMAMA! We can work it out so that you can have the respect you so desire!
10 clues that men need a little loving support in the relationship department:
1. You have often found yourself calling women ‘golddiggers’ and wish to have an independent woman who will not need you to secure her or take care of her financial needs.
2. You have often desired your mate to be the sexual aggressor. Your libido is not so steady and you need her to show you that she wants you a little bit more.
OK – so the title is obnoxious but I had to sing it loud! My Way and I’m Proud! But not so much any more. Why is it that I still have the itch to have everything in my relationship to go my way?
SO last night I was unbraiding my husband’s hair and he was just sitting there on the computer with the earphones listening to the latest in movie previews. I am not interested AT ALL in movies because they freak me out. I am a trance DIVA so I feel like I am IN the movie or that the movie is happening to ME! So I steer clear of movies. (I recall watching the matrix and then thinking that the special agents were going to come and get me! I know, crazy. But whatever).
Now mind you, my husband and I are like OOOBER busy, so I thought that by taking his hair out, we could spend some time talking to one another and to the kids. SO I dreamed up this huge fairy tale in my mind about me taking his braids out as he reads books to the kids who hardly ever see us with our travel and work schedules.
NOT!
As the reality unfolded I realized that my husband did not have concept or clue about my wishes and desires. And so when I asked him to read the kids a story as I did his hair, he said, flat out, and blatantly NO. WHAT? NO? Well why the hell not? I was about to have a fit when I recalled what was happening – again – and decided to become awake in the moment!
Now I was really mad – HELL YES! But did I have to follow the anger emotion and let it wreck havoc in my relationship? HELL NO. Did I have to disrespect him in front of the children and question him, or badger him until he complied? Well, not this time….
Here are the three steps to resolving the incessant need to have it YOOUUUURRRR WWAAAYYYYY!
Dear Wonderful Men,
I am writing on behalf of all women (I hope). This letter is especially oriented for men in relationships with women, long term relationships, marriages and short term relationships for that matter! I want to talk about your desire to have more. We all want more. More love, more freedom, more fun! We honor you. We want that too. Everyone wants to feel free and happy, right?
Let me explain a few things to you that will surely get that DIVA you are working with on the right page about the relationship. She needs your love and I know you need her respect and both of you can have BOTH! Easy as pie!
The trick is simple. In this letter, I offer four ways for you to take your relationship to the next level.
I guess I’m talking to men today because of all the emails I get from men who say:
“Kenya K, I want my wife or lover to open up in the ways you have to your husband – but she won’t let me do anything like that. She would kill me if she knew I were writing you!”
I guess these men are talking about the open relationship piece. But there are a few things that must be in tact in a primary relationship before women will even consider doing anything outside the norm. Women are VERY conservative.
This is from the heart…
New paradigm thought is not like the old stuff. Gone are the days when we could cut the fool all week and then go to church on Sunday to be ‘forgiven’. That is a dying school of thought that lacks the component of human beings take 100% responsibility for the creation of LIFE. New Paradigm Thought does not suggest the absence of a higher power. It simply denotes the fact that a higher power infused itself into us and placed us here to grow through experiences to achieve heaven on Earth rather than after death… (no such thing as death, then?)
Here are a few remnants of that dying thing called the Western Relationship Paradigm with the emerging counterparts:
- Blame vs Responsibility
- Shame vs Tolerance
- Envy vs Acceptance
- Jealousy vs Compersion
- Grudges vs Empathy
- Anger vs Joy
Lets begin with the obvious. You chose that lover of yours now didn’t you? When things get hard, which they will, the first thing we do as Westerners is blame the other person or blame ourselves! Neither of these are going to work much longer. As Aquarius makes her way back to Earth, we are drawn in a new, sexy, direction.
Taking 100% responsibility for the situation is so liberating!
Often clients say ‘Well, Kenya K, why should I take 100% responsibility – isn’t that man or that woman 50% of the problem if not more?’. My response to them is simple. New Paradigm thought [which is actually ancient, holistic thought] is based on the fact that we all exist in our own Universe – Parallel Universes! My Universe is MINE. Everything that happens to me is a part of my Universe. Everything that happens to my mate is occurring in his Universe. So, in essence, when some shit goes down, we both have 100% responsibility for it.
When we view life in this way, we are making room for the obvious – World Peace!
Check this out…My “shamefully evolved” weekend story!
