Well, as you know your JujuMama has been really busy lately!  AND ~ I just realized that I am one angry Bitch! LOL!  Just kidding… But, I used to think of myself as calm, relaxed, intuitive, spiritual and wise.  Hopefully this recent anger I uncovered does not usurp my “good” stuff…  I can’t freaking believe this myself!  Amazing…

I think that this anger has been for years covered over and so I did not even know it was bubbling just beneath the surface. But luckily I do loads of work on myself, EFT, Tantra, Lacing so almost daily I am digging to uncover my grace.  I am going to tell you about this inner RAGE in hopes that you can offer a hand in helping me settle myself.  This new discovery is making me think that more women must feel this way, maybe you too have buried the RAGE beneath the surface…?

I realized this latent RAGE when this weekend my husband and I took a little get-away together.  We actually found ourselves floating on a swing in the park near a beautiful river talking, yes, talking for the first time in months!  I mean, we talk every day, but not on a wooden swing near a lake with no kids shouting that the dogs have run away and are now biting the neighbors – we could be sued!  And certainly not without cell phones, house phones, Internet, iPods, kids, dogs, housekeepers, assistants, clients and friends…

But here at the river, we became blissfully and sensually intimate in our discussion and for heaven’s sake, I let it all out!

My husband asked me why I had been for the past few weeks so shut down.  He sensed that I was angry at him, especially when in the company of his “lady friends”.  At the same time, he noticed that I wasn’t having fun with my “boyfriends” anymore.  (I thought I simply had my hands full, and head to the wind doing all of the work ~blog migration in particular ~ that I do… and I LOVE it!  Which is why there are no juicy stories of late…)

SO I said to him, you know what?  Let me think about that, because I do feel that I am upset about something, but I haven’t put my finger on it…  I looked out into the waters, they were green and flowing, I caught glimpse of a turtle humming and laughing at me?  Then ducks and some other kinds of birds were chasing one another… the men seemed aggressive as they chased the female ducks hither and yon.  I felt a sensation rise inside of me, there was something coming to the surface.  It came from deep within my sub-conscious soul…

You know, I am pissed, I said it again as though I was talking now to God itself, where had my husband gone?  God dammit, I am pissed as HELL! (Wait a minute, is this voice mine?)  Why?  Said the voice of kindness, there was an echo and the male ducks had caught up to the female ducks and they made love in the green waters with the turtles watching, still laughing, was I weeping or panting?   Was I aroused or was I focused on my lack of arousal?  Was I angry or not and WHY?  And wait, where is my husband?

Why are you so angry? (Oh, there he is)  Why do you become especially angry when you see me with another woman?  I closed my eyes and I said it.  Finally:  I am angry because I can’t do it the same way.  I can feel it in my being ~ but I can’t find a way to allow it ~ a way to allow my real, sensual, self to be expressed FREE OF GUILT… and I am angry as hell that you can do it.  I mean be authentic with it and enjoy it – guilt free?

When I try to allow it, and believe me, I choose it!  I enjoy the moment ~ But then I still do not feel free long enough! Who has imprisoned me? Even as you have freed me, even as I have freed myself!!! Who has imprisoned me?  Can I be more free than that?  Who else can free me?

Can I really express my deep love for life, my deep love and lust and respect and desire for the opposite sex when I am near you, my husband?  How about when I am in YOUR presence?  Now that is authentic.  Can I do that, the way you openly express your freedom in my presence?  I feel if I dare do it, to be authentic, that you may not love me the same; I feel the world may not accept it…  If I Love Free which is natural to my spirit, to my soul, will I survive my own thoughts about my own self?

Ladies, let me be clear.  What you are witnessing is evolution and it can look a hot mess.  We are removing layers, upon layers upon layer of stuff – centuries of stuff – that stands in the way of Authentic Feminine Expression.  My expression of the desires, passions, sensual feelings of bliss and heavenly connection that I feel on the inside is longing for freedom…  We have a ways to go before we walk, orgasmically, in the deep knowing of our Goddesshood – and that’s OK…

I wish I could paint the layers, I wish I could do more than write.  I will make a video of it soon – but not now – too fresh.

I am embarrassed now to even write this, but I am a HUGE flirt!  I believe that being a flirt is WAY deeper than simple flirtation.  It is seeking spiritual connection to every other human being on the planet.  My Goddess being born is labor.  The labor is heady, I am feeling a misted dew rising in my thighs and I want to be held by just about everyone!  I want to feel the warmth and heart of men everywhere… I want to have my misted dew devoured… worshiped, horded and collected by him, by them all.  This is the feeling ladies, this is the reason men had to inject patriarchal rule… This Feminine Energy is some powerful shit!

But there it goes, you see, that feeling in my gut – it says “someone is calling you a whore right now”.  Do you see that?  THAT IS WHY I AM SO ANGRY!!!!!  Like, who made this foolishness a part of me?  I don’t want to feel like someone is looking at my sex drive and judging, God itself judging me for wanting passionate, communion with the world!  Even after I removed so many layers,  I find more repression, sexual lunacy, and I don’t think my husband feels it the same way.  Do  men know what it is like to feel guilty about sex, even after GOOD sex!?  But maybe they do, I have had Christian clients, men, who do feel guilty about sex even with their wives. And I had a man who felt guilty because mom found him masturbating at age 15…

I have had many MORE female clients who tell me they feel like father is watching as they make love, they feel like God is watching, they feel like STDs are transmitted, babies are conceived, they want to yank their ovaries out to avoid becoming pregnant and embarrassing their families, I have women who have starved themselves when they thought they might be pregnant, or who have tried to keep the secret of the pleasure they felt during molestation or rape (deep) so long that the secret becomes a curse making them crazy with guilt ~ sexual guilt!  She enjoyed the rape?  For shame!!!!!

I will to channel this inner rage appropriately (enter wisdom, calm and spiritual evolution).  With my husband swinging gently, loving me kindly, and the river still raging with the lust of ducks WHO ARE ALLOWED TO MAKE LOVE IN PUBLIC!!!!!  I intend to unravel this layer of guilt not just for myself, but for all women who want to join me on this one. 

My mission: Free Feminine Energy to be ALIVE and IN LOVE in the world again ~ open women to bliss worldwide!

So this blockage has nine epicenters that I will address in coming articles:

• Feel ashamed to flirt (connect) with men, especially when I am near or around my husband or father
• Feel guilty about sexual feelings had for inappropriate people – bad boys,  another’s husband, boyfriend, or lover, a teacher, older man, father, wrong gender… (want to ignore it but it has meaning, profound meaning)
• Feel ashamed to share my true desires with men (like I can’t say what I really want from them – feels whorish)
• Feel openly dismissive of my own sensual feelings thinking of what might go wrong instead (making excuses and saying NO – see my video – Why I Say No)
• Feel secretly angry at men who seem to be more free with sexual energy and more pleased by the act (but are actually not)
• Feel deep sadness as I KNOW and FEEL I am not yet projecting my actual feminine SELF in the world
• Feel as though I will be called a whore if I really do what I desire to do with men or women or with my life
• Feel pain or butterflies in my stomach when I want to say something REAL or AUTHENTIC to someone and then do not
• Feel strange to want to hug everyone I see who catches my fancy and arouses my senses…  long, sexy, hugs at that!

So there… I am going to tackle this with a feminine magic all my own.  You all know JujuMama – when I say I’m going to find solutions, I am going to search the inner plains and produce!  LOL!

Either way, this is just the beginning.  I will begin a nine part article series to address the list of nine (above).  I will explore solutions and end the madness for me and maybe for you too?  Let me know what you think!

Feel Free to leave a comment or a donation to support the project.  This is my 87th post here, if you like the work, donate!  I think this next level will be HUGE.  I have to incorporate telephone~seminars, research, and juicy gatherings so that we can begin to work this out…  I would appreciate any assistance – even your comments keep me going – as I prepare to write the posts that will OPEN women to the deeper pleasures of life and love… women have been closed for far too long.  WAY Too long.  Men – you’re in for a real treat!  LOL!  I love you all!

JujuMama

But You Can’t Run Away From Yourself…

-Bob Marley

That really sums up my topic!  Where are you running to?  Where are going to go?  Away from that crazy arse man, that crazy arse woman!?  LOL!  Child please…

End Foolish Break Ups | 2009 - JujuMama’s latest Mission!  I can’t stand it, it really is interesting to see so many people, sane people, smart people, damned geniuses running from relationships that don’t seem to be working out. What the hell does that mean?  “It just isn’t working out”…

Oh don’t look at me that way.  I hear you. It’s not working out...I know.  I’m not coming down on you…I’m not being uppity, I have been there before.  I can not judge you for taking the path of least resistance….

But I won’t hold my tounge – the sh-t is foolish – flat out.

Damn!  I thought I had a wider grasp on useful vocabulary – but it fails me now.  Here’s Why, check it out…

OK – I know that winter is here.  Winter is doing what she does best, clearing out the old crap. Many believe we catch cold in the winter because it is cold outside.  No freakin way!  We catch cold in winter because winter is doing her job.  Winter clears out the viruses and bacteria that have been gathering in your body and on the planet all year. Because the weather is warm in other seasons, the viruses and psycho viruses get life in our bodies, minds and spirits.  But winter, oh that’s one bad B!  She comes in and her energy alone brings all the muck and mire directly to the surface and clears it out!

But forget about the science of it all – or remember it – whichever you choose.  I can no longer contain the calls I have been receiving this winter – and winter has just begun! I keep hearing about insane break-ups!

Sane people, rational friends whom I’ve know a long time, whom I respect and honor – people with numerous degrees and real jobs and beautiful kids and healthy lifestyles have been calling me telling me they just can’t deal with their mate any longer.  “It’s just not working out”, they tell me with voices so faint I can barely make out the words…

I ask them to repeat what they said…They close down, get quiet and proceed to tell me that they are simply “not happy!” they “deserve better” or they “Just don’t have to deal with this anymore”. More break up jargon that just makes me laugh. 

It makes me laugh! I guess I am saying, with limited vocab, is this.  Stop calling me with that fear based, victim based, illusion based philosophy!  Well, wait a minute, I am a life coach, relationship coach and motivational speaker, I can’t tell you clowns, I mean you clients to stop calling me.  Why would I do such a foolish thing…and ruin my business.  Just please, tell me how the five points below don’t apply to you…

Are you above Universal Law?

Are you hovering in the ionosphere, exempt from basic Quantum Physics?

Well, maybe you are above Universal Law – you-is-za bad motha%$#@.  But wait, if you were, would you really be running away from your perfect, magical, Godly self by breaking up with your partner?  I think not.  I think if you were above Universal Law, somehow magically exempt from it,  you could ‘work this out’.  Right?

Here are the facts as I sees em and I dare you to leave some brainy comment debating this…

1.  Your Mate Is Your Mirror – You attract who you are!

OK – Basic Law of The Universe number One is simple.  You are attracting who you are.  Remember your mom told you that your peer group would define you?  She told you to hang out with the good kids to avoid trouble?  But that never really worked, did it?

Did you find the gangsta kids in your high school hanging out with the honor roll kids?  No?  Oh, well, why not?  Bing Bing Bing.  We attract ONLY who we are.  If it were different, you’d have the project tenements next door to Will and Jada!  You might find Luda has won the position of US President and you might see lions mating with zebras!  How ridiculous.

The Universe has a natural way of flowing those of like mind and like vibration together.  Is it fair?  Of course it’s fair.  Have you ever noticed that everyone’s income in your neck of the woods is about the same?  How about the lunchroom at your job, have you ever seen the executive baord break bread with the janitors?  Need I go on?

When we choose to ignore Universal Law, we become hopeless victims complaining about our colleagues, friends and family to no useful end.  Pure Folly I tell you.  There is no sense complaining about those around you.  You have pulled them forth from over 6 billion people on Earth to do something very special – that is – reflect YOU!

You attracted your mate – FROM LITERALLY NOWHERE -  for the exact same reason!  You called that ignoramus to show you exactly who and what you are from the inside out.  Maybe you fail to notice the blatant mirror in your mate.  He or she is showing you what you are and who you are.  Is he picky, lazy or disrespectful!  Good!  So are you!  You can choose to ignore it or you can choose to see it – your choice.  But ignoring it leads to a double whammy:

• If you ignore the fact that your mate is your mirror then you instantly lower your vibration.  From the seat of denial, you will not only attract others who ignore reality, but you will attract people who simply have chosen to walk the planet in a stupor of sleep…similar to you.
• If you ignore the fact that your mate is your mirror, then you are always ready to break up with that loathsome, no-good, son of a B… You don’t understand that he is YOU.  He just is not worth your time, is he?  LOL!

How would you like it if I told you that you are now doomed to become lower in your vibration each day and participate in a constant chain of break-ups for the rest of your life?  Not too good huh?  Who wants that?

Here is the African Prover that sums it well: “No Yoga position will enable you to see your own arse!  It takes others to do that for you”  YES!  So when you find yourself in a doomed situation with an out of control mate think of this -  You are looking at the reflection of your out-of-control self!  That is Universal Law.  The solution is simple – read on!

2.  Just Where Do You Think You Are Going?  Your Mate Is Perfect For You In Every Way Possible!

This out-of-control mate is perfect for you in every way, shape, form, structure and byte.  How can you say that JujuMama?  Damn you JujuMama!  I hear you.  But check it out.  Again, I point to Universal Law.  The Universe is so perfectly ordered, it just makes me eyegasm to see it sometimes…lovely, blissful, seductively-divine order is a beautiful thing.

Your current mate is perfect for you, yes, that one, because if you can begin to know that you are looking at your own reflection, then you can begin to know what you have to work on to Change Your Life for the good!  The African proverb states that you can’t see your own arse without ‘others’.  OK – so what, maybe you won’t want to see your arse!  The only problem with not having  a full frontal view of your back side is that you don’t know whether it is dirty or clean.  Did you miss a spot, are there pimples, dimples?  Oh heaven forbid!

If you can see your own backside through the behaviors of your lunatic you call your mate, then you can know what you need to change in YOU in order to attract better!  When you know what you have to do to attract better, then you can become a better person.  When you become a better person you will attract, from those around you, better traits!  A better you means a better reflection of you from everyone you love…

So what does this mean?  Essentially it means becoming better will attract better. Attracting better will free you from the prison of your bad relationship!  HOW?  When you become better your mate will still be that mirror reflecting your perfect, new attributes.  If he or she can no longer be that mirror, meaning if he or she can’t keep up with your growth, he or she will fall away only to be harmoniously replaced by someone who can reflect the new you!  Now THAT, my friends is the ultimate divorce!  Let the Universe itself divorce you from the prison you find yourself in.  But do it the right way…No force – just good ole personal development.

Here’s the real issue: If you attempt to force a break-up without cognition of the fact that your mate is your mirror – in other words if you are blaming your mate for just simply being an asshole, and you walk away from that bothersome beau, then you are not walking away from him or her, you are running away from yourself.  Bob – sing the tune man!

Ya runnin and Ya runnin and Ya runnin away…

SO what!  OK – you don’t mind running away from yourself.  So what!  But what will happen next?  Oh what fun!  You will repeat the same old tired pattern!  You will attract another perfectly positioned, bone headed, idiot to replace that old bone headed idiot whom you refused to notice was YOU YOU YOU all along!  (Not calling you an idiot, just making a point)

Well, that really wasn’t a solution Kenya K!  That was a bunch of psycho babble…Yes, I hear you.  But if you are a really keen person then you can see that the solution is clear.  Allow me to explain.

3.  To Change Your Situation – Change Your Point Of Attraction

To change your ‘terrible’ situation – oh I know it sucks!  To create a better result, you must change your point of attraction.  What does this mean?  Well, you hate him or her, right?  They get on your last damn nerve, maybe they cheat, lie, steal, or are addicted porn.  OK.  I don’t succumb to sob stories, I have been lied to, cheated on (Cheating – what a baseless concept!) stolen from and witnessed his addictions.

But to change it, I had to realize that I am a cheater, liar, thief and addict!

Heaven forbid!  Kenya K, we didn’t know that about you!  Oh My Goodness!  Stop that.  Let’s get real here.  I’m going to break these things down so that you won’t feel so worried for me…

The root concept of Cheating

I DON’T HONOR YOUR WOMANHOOD/MANHOOD

The root concept of Lying

I AM NOT AN AUTHENTIC PERSON I LIVE IN FEAR OF SELF

The root concept of Stealing

THE WORLD OWES ME – I AM A VICTIM OF LIFE

The root concept of Addiction

I AM A CONTROL FREAK – I AM A PESSIMIST – I DO NOT KNOW PEACE

OK, check, check, check, and double check!  I share these traits!  Yes I Can share my hand.  OK, so I didn’t cheat – I didn’t put another man’s penis into my vagina for a few passionate minutes.  But I DO NOT honor his manhood just as he dishonors mine!  What is the difference?  Please someone tell me, what is the difference between cheating and simply not honoring a person’s selfhood, their need to be informed, devaluing their right to have access to dignity and truth?

OK – so I don’t tell bold faced lies about my whereabouts, but I do lie to myself – all of the time!  The first lie being that I am nothing like him, the second being, I am perfect and he is a bad boy, the third lie being, I am not able to handle this situation any more, I don’t know what to do, I am helpless as a victim.  The lies go on and on!  Not to mention to little white lies I tell him and others on a daily basis…LOL!  Here’s a good one – I only spent 100 dollars today!

OK – so I didn’t steal money from his bank account to pay my bills.  But I did ignore the budget he tried to set.  I am, of course, a victim of life, I am poor because the ‘man’ stole me from Africa, I steal a few photocopies from the ‘man’ at work… Further,  I rob my man of his sense of manhood when ever I get good and damned ready!  I simply curse his arse out a few good times a week.  But I am no thief!  He could come get his manhood back anytime!  LOL!

Oh yes, and finally ‘he’s addicted to porn!‘.  This one may be hard to fathom and I am sensitive to women living with an addict and do not think they need to stay married unless both man and wife are ready to undergo serious intervention.  (However, she cannot attract better without being better herself)  But here is the scoop…He’s an addict.  But I am not addicted anything!  I am not addicted to having my way, I am not addicted to anger, sadness, drama, confusion, arguments, none of it!  He is just a bad guy…LOL!

Solution:  To attract better we must become better.

When we find ourselves in a difficult situation, we have to find the mirror, the pattern and the lesson.  When we choose to awaken to the fact that our mates core traits (not behaviors) are just like ours, we have to begin taking steps to rectify the situation.  We must decide to pluck these negative traits from our own personalities instead of playing the old blame game.  We have to decide that here and now we will do better, be better – not just in our primary relationships, but in general with all of our mirrors – I mean friends, family, colleagues, and loved ones…

If and only if we take actions to improve in ourselves the very things we find repulsive about our mates will we, FINALLY, free ourselves of the reflection and attract better from those bone heads!  I wrote about this in my book , Change Your Man.  And people rant and rave to me – oh Kenya K, we can’t change anyone.  What?  Are you serious?  Who taught you science?  The science is so simple it almost melts in your mouth.  You can change any human being in your life!  When you change yourself, you change your point of attraction and attract better!  If he or she simply cannot change (rare) then that person will harmoniously fall away from you without force, lectures, messy divorce, child custody cases and so forth.

By changing YOU from the inside out, you can change the world!  Your world at least – maybe more…get back to me on that!

You have got to try this.  You may ‘luck up’ and find peaceful resolution and an entirely new life – no nastiness needed!

Uh Oh – I hear your brain talking.  Kenya K, what if I do the work AFTER I leave my mate?  Can I still change the world and all that jazz?  Go ahead and try to do this ‘self-work’ after leaving a tumultuous relationship, you will find your actions fall flat.

The problem is this…How in the world are you going to know you have succeeded without your perfect mirror to reflect back all you have become…?  Oh I’ll have another mirror by then.  Oh really?  So what you are saying is that you are willing to begin again with someone else only to get to the same old crossroad and have to do the work either way.  Don’t jive me…no way.

4. Do You actually think you are better off alone?

You aren’t better off alone. Don’t even try to tell me something so silly.  OK – fine then, go to the mountains and meditate.  Go up there away from the cursed people of the world and just BEEEEEEEE.  Be in the essence of the bounty of goodness, escape the madness that is YOU.  Get up there and just vegetate – be at peace. LOL!  Good freakin luck!

If you leave him or her you should not expect to find peace.  Mountain retreats cost money, money comes from commerse, so you will still have to deal with all the YOU’s!  After the Unfounded Break-Up you will find yourself in the world attracting more YOU’s.  Perfect.  But you are telling me that you want to do the work on your own – no YOU’s to wrestle with…OK.

So you left the first YOU and now you will do the work on your own.  NOT!  The Universe will immediately and expediently replace that YOU with another; and, you will find that you STILL have to live the new truth and be the new you that you wanted him or her to become instead of YOU!  After all it was all his fault, he should be the one to become the new YOU.  LOL!

Don’t you get that?

OK.  Walk slow Kenya.  If you leave your mate because they were reflecting all the parts of you that you don’t want to change, then you will be doomed to attract that same thing over and over until you actually do the work of changing the real YOU. OK?

This leads me to my important mission: End Foolish Break Ups | 2009.  It is foolish to decide that you don’t like YOU anymore and then run to another YOU and another and another.  What a waste of time and life.  And it is even more profoundly unenlightened to think that you can do some form of ‘work’ on your own.  Work happens at your points of contention, not on the mountain top chanting – silly goose.

What are you going to do?  Read a self help book and try the practices on your dog?  You cat?  Your fish (well, that is easiest).  Don’t get slick on me folks.  Your fish?  Please! And please don’t tell me that this ‘work’ is too hard, or that he just doesn’t ‘deserve’ it, he isn’t doing it, he is lazy as hell, I want to see him change first!  Please…Petty, young, unenlightened excuses – and poor ones at that!  You cannot run away from yourself…

He is YOU!  She is YOU!  Need I say it again?  If he is resistant to change, YOU are resistant to change!

And that is pretty obvious as YOU are leaving, now isn’t it?

5.  If You Think He or She Can’t Change It is YOU Who Can’t Change – BET

OK – so you’re leaving because you think you, oops, I mean that man cannot change.  OK – LOL!  Sorry to laugh, but this really is an odd state of affairs.  So you think that man can not change and won’t change and is stubborn as an ox (reflection).  You can’t waste your time in your, oops I mean, that man’s presence anymore…

OK – fair enough.

Need I remind you once again of the basic premise of my five talking points?  Mates are Mirrors!

If you believe in Universal Law then you accept this, right, the whole mirror bit?  Those who don’t believe haven’t made it to this final talking point, I assure you, so I know that you know. If you think he can’t change then who cannot change?  Very Good!  It’s YOU!  So are you ready to beak through that old, crystallized crap and become someone new whether he changes with you or not?  Well why would you do this?

Why would you change whether he does or not?

That would be a load of work – and for what?

If you do the work, here and now, in this relationship, and this time, in this year, in this situation, in this moment, then you are raising your vibration!  What’s so good about that Kenya, still sounds too fairy, I’m too busy to raise my vibration!  WIll my salary increase if I work to raise my vibration?  Well, if you do it now and are sincere with it, I mean with finding all the parts of him that you don’t like, finding how you are just the same and then shifting those parts of YOU, then you will rise above him!

When you rise above him, and soar toward the clouds, he will have two options – Change or Disappear.  There won’t be a fight, there won’t be a melee, there won’t even be a mild struggle.  Your mirror will continue mirroring you or magically dissappear!  Usually, because we chose mates on our vibrational level, when we do the work, they too get motivated to do the work!  You didn’t attract no fool now did you?  No, you are no fool!  You loved this person, you were and maybe still are attracted to your mate.  So trust the process, you just may find that the love is elevated, the sex is elevated, the relationship is elevated and you from that elevated place will find not only bliss, but the MAJOR SHIFTS in every part of your life, every person, every situation.

Hell, you might find peace itself…you might just find God!

Conclusion

Challenge me my friends.  I dare you.  I welcome you!  You can’t tell me that gravity doesn’t exist, and you can’t tell me that the moon and sun are actually cheese.  Tell me then that your mate is not your mirror and that Universal Law doesn’t exist.  And tell me that you can be alone on a mountain top to work this stuff out without his or her ignorant self in your face testing you daily.  Tell me that you won’t eventually end up in the same quandary with someone else.  Sound fun?  Tell me that you don’t need to change YOU to change the entire scope of your life!  Tell me it ain’t so…

Practical Next Steps

Instead of breaking up with that ignorant arse bastard.  Break up with your old habits!  Break up with your old fears, break up with your old expectations, actions, thoughts, nuances, ideas and beliefs!  Now this is the work of enlightened ones – and that is you, right?  Yes.  Enlightened beings read my blogs indeed.

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Jump into the Cn365 System – we’re currently doing 45 days of clearing the rubbish – do it now before it’s too late!  We aid you in clearing old thoughts, beliefs, habits, expectation, pain and so forth.  Remove the blocakges in your spirit! This is an On-line workshop with full bodied workbook including daily instructions mailed directly to your home address.

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Read my book Change Your Man for nine steps that will really change him, change her, change you, change life forever!

Yeah – I said it.  Now What?

How do we reconcile the fact that a partner is behaving badly – I mean when your friends jump down your back!?
You Deserve Better GIRL…

Do we break up with a beloved who seems to have ‘problems’?
Do we stay and work out the issues and take the heat from friends and family?

Can your lover’s bad habits be reconciled in some way?

The answers to these questions depend on how you view the Universe.  Are you a Victim in life or Co-Creator of your relationship?  There is only one way to make a bad relationship good, it requires penetrating insight into Universal Laws.  The easy out – or running away – will never do the trick.  You’ll just run right to another situation that will challenge you again to work out your own issues.

Here’s a clue – every action has an equal and opposite reaction.  For every effect, there is a cause.  This is the most basic Universal Law.  Use it when in a bind with your honey:

Tonight I was speaking with a very sexy friend of mine.  She has been working out her relationship with my support for the past two years.  When she first appeared, she had broken up with her beloved and was spying on him, checking his email and listening in at his apartment door.  She was crazy for him but could not be with him without drama.

She thought there was no hope of reconciliation because she had crossed the line.  The couple fought repeatedly about various issues.  But mostly she didn’t like the way this guy was treating her…

She loved this man but felt he may never measure up as a husband due to his selfishness, arrogance and the habit he had acquired of simply cutting her off.  He wasn’t receptive in the least bit to working through the issues in the relationship and had given up on her completely.

Of course when we first spoke she blamed him for the situation casting him as a no good bastard with a bad temper.  She blamed him for the fights, arguments, and so forth claiming that he had cursed her out one too many times.

Sure, this man was a screamer and a cursing pirate.  I agreed with her there.  What I will never agree with is that the Law of the Universe was not the very force keeping this situation escalating our of control.  I beckoned her to look at the fact that he was actually a reflection of her own bad temper, cursing mouth, and selfishness.  To every effect there is a cause and every action has an equal and opposite reaction…

This of course pissed her off because she claimed that the only reason she’d yell and curse these is because he would.  LOL!  So the first thing we did together is discover the fact that there is a cause to every effect.  We aren’t simply victims to the bad temper of another; we are creator of them.

What?!!!!  How?!!!!

We create the bad temper of another by having a bad temper ourselves.  This girl, like many of us, was naturally prone to curse like a pirate, behave selfishly and get ignorant when she felt like it.  Sure, she would do this in response to his anger and spewing of arid insults, most of the time.  But if it weren’t in her to be the same way, she would not have attracted this lovely man!  She had to see her own reflection and so the Universe sent her male counterpart!  LOL!

How could you call this man lovely, Kenya K?  How could you say that this girl is not a victim?  I hear you folks.  I can be neutral here because I know the laws of the Universe and secretly, so do you.  You know that in every situation we experience we have played a role in creating it; you just find it difficult to accept you are creating your entire life!  It seems like a lot of damned responsibility with no one to blame – ouch!  OK – fair enough.

As evolved beings it is time to give up this rather ridiculous pattern of thinking – that someone else is doing something to you that you don’t do to others.  It is time to awaken to the real facts of the matter.  If this lady wants him to change, she has to change.  But first she has to believe that she too has the same issues as he…now that is tough!

Well, this lady has since done the work of awakening herself.  She found that she did indeed have a terrible habit of becoming just as angry, selfish and childish as he would.  So I prescribed a new course of action.  So what if she wasn’t initiating the violence most of the time.  I asked her to try to curb her anger and respond more evenly to his violent emotions.  Also to find the root to her anger deep within.  Did it begin in childhood or somewhere else?

Once she found the root to her anger, began working on controlling her own temper – even as a response to his. She had him humming the tune of love again.  Today, two years later, they are headed for marriage!  She is so glad that she didn’t kick him to the curb when she thought she should, when all of her friends were telling her that she must!

Every action she took caused an equal and opposite reaction on his part.  The equal and opposite reaction was simple.  He equally became more relaxed, selfless and sweet.  He became the opposite of who he used to be.  She injected a new cause and found a new effect!

You can do it too!  Here is the exercise.

1. List three things about your sweetheart that drive you crazy!
2. Now decide to find the parallel behavior that you do which ‘mirrors’ this behavior.
3. Now decide that you will root this bad behavior from your spirit.
4. Now watch as he or she does the same.

Remember – keep this a secret.  Don’t brag that you are now doing better with this behavior.  Just allow your partner to experience the effects of this new behavior and watch the changes that begin to take place.

Its great to take note of the shifts so that you truly understand the power of your actions.  This will keep you motivated to work on each of the areas you mentioned even more.  And as you do, you will see that he or she simply changes like magic.  If the person is incapable of change (which is highly unlikely) He or she will simply fall away and be replaced by someone on your new vibration.  It’s so fun and easy!

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Cioa!

For all it’s worth, sex is a great way to make your dreams come true.  Sure, it may be a dream come true to simply engage in the magical act with your beloved.  However, to harness the energy of this most transcendental experience to create just about anything you want in life is an entirely different story!

Have you ever done it?  Have you utilized the brilliant white light of sexual bliss to focus into your primary objectives?  Let me explain what I mean…

Sex is more than a momentary feeling of ecstasy.  Sex is a generator of very powerful energy – just imagine a turbine spinning, creating energy enough to light a city.  Sex is a similar churning of powerful energy that can be utilized to create massive success in life.  The trick is harnessing the powerful force as you engage in the sacred act.

Here in modern America we are taught ‘the birds and the bees’ in school or at home in a very clinical way.  We (girls at least, lol) are told to wait until marriage, or use a condom, and to be very selective with whom we share our bodies.   With these concepts I partially agree.  But what about the deeper aspects, the physics of the act itself.  What about the fun, magic and powerful connection to Source that sex offers?  Why didn’t we hear anything about that?

Here in three simple steps I’m going to give you a crash course on using the raw energy generated during sex to support your dreams.  Why should you take this course?  Most would agree that to accomplish our life mission is important.  Well, sexual energy can be a driving force in the manifestation of all you crave.

Here’s the skinny:

Step One: Choose a Partner you trust and love.  This can be a friend, colleague or your current lover.  If you don’t have a partner – try this alone!  No problem mon!  Be sure to explain to your partner the new way you want to use sex and maybe explore with your partner the concept of Tantra.  (Do a keyword search)

Step Two: Prepare for your first try.  Yes, this may be the very first time you ever utilize sex for the purpose of bringing your soul-level desires into glowing manifestation!  Prepare by choosing ONE goal to focus on during the act, your partner may have a different goal or the same one as you.  Set the tone for a beautiful experience by taking a shower, creating the mood with candles or soft music.  You may want to stretch, do yoga, or simply be in silence prior to the act.

Step Three: Make Beautiful, Focused, And Powerful Love.  During the act you will do the same things you’d normally do.  The only shift is your focus.  Be conscious of your breath and take extraordinarily deep breaths when you begin the act.  You may want to try to synchronize your breath with your partners.

Begin to focus on the feeling of having your ONE goal NOW!  You should enjoy the act as usual but with heightened glee as you also visualize your ONE goal or the end result FEELING of having that goal manifest.

Visualize or FEEL the way you would feel if you had your dream come true right now!  In this way you are using the HUGE energy being generated to send toward your goals.  You are becoming a powerful magnet for your goals as you internally visualize and feel good about how it feels to be there NOW!

You aren’t ignoring your partner.  You are simply giving some of the energy back to your own focus.  No problem mon!

When you reach your climax (if you are non-orgasmic, you need help, check out my friends website http://www.masteryao.com for more information or listen to this podcast http://jujumama.podbean.com) be sure to shift the feelings you experience in BLISS toward the feeling of HAVING your dream come true!  If you are shouting, panting, shaking and so forth, do that, but do it because you are creating the final result of your ONE goal in live Technicolor visualizations.

Don’t feel bad if you can’t literally SEE the goal happening.  It works just as well to FEEL the goal.  Just feel your desired end result in your mind – feel that end result.  Here are a few questions that will get you there right now:

* How does it feel to have accomplished your dream?
* How does it feel to live the destiny you crave?
* How do you feel now that you have actually walked into the future of you?
* How does it feel to have all you desire right now?

If you can answer these questions right now, you can FEEL these feelings during sex.  It’s sooooooooo amazingly fun!  And best of all, it really works!  My husband and I do this all of the time.  Often we work on the same goal, but we sometimes choose separate goals.

Don’t worry, its not robotic.  You can still get as buck wild as you’d like, but you are simply sending some of that psychic heat into the Universe toward your future realities, which are simply fabulous!

Finally, be sure to use the ‘afterglow’ to continue to energize your ONE goal.  Just think, you are finally in a perfectly peaceful and meditative state.  This is the time to continue living the reality you prepared – your ONE goal.  You can use this twilight consciousness to feel great about how you HAVE ACHIEVED your desired reality RIGHT NOW!

Enjoy this folks!  Your life will never be the same again…

Oh – one more thing.  Do you know there is a group of physics professors doing a worldwide experiment on December 21?  YES!  They have planned a world orgasm!  They expect it will shift the Noosphere, which is an actual measurement of the energy of the collective human consciousness.  Did you know that there was such a unit of measure?  Nooshpere!  Wild!  You have to check this out http://www.globalorgasm.com.  Princeton University professors will conduct this study THIS SUNDAY!  Join in!

Ciao!

Kenya K Stevens |JujuMama | Hakashamut

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