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So here we go again A wonderful thing, LOVE, unevenly distributed in the course of modern history between Special Love and Universal Love. It’s time to balance the scales. So what am I talking about, right? What is the difference between Universal Love and Special Love. This article will explain all of it and even give you ideas on how to balance these energies in your life.
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The real question is, why does this matter? So what if Modern Societies are polarized in Special Love? Well, the issue with this lack of balance will become clear to you once you understand the difference between the two types of love.
OK – so yesterday’s post got NO comments! The 142 people, maybe women, who read it were as silent as mice. LOL! All the ladies were like, ump, that is not me! I do not posses any, not one, of the ten traits. Well, maybe there were a few honest ones who sent personal emails – Thank you DIVAS! But I got far more personal mail that denoted the need for the man’s list!
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Why is it that as soon as I talk about what women need to shift in relationships, the women say “Well, what does the man need to do?” It seems we have a feeling of powerlessness. Feminine Energy is very powerful! Women are the center of the Home and the center of the Creative Universe! If we make changes – MEN make changes. You did see this story about the Kenyan women who went on a sex fast to end war, correct? And by no means do I suggest a sex fast, but I am saying!
Anyway, because I love ALL DIVAS, I decided to create the man’s list today.
Men – if you are having any one of the symptoms below – CALL JUJUMAMA! We can work it out so that you can have the respect you so desire!
10 clues that men need a little loving support in the relationship department:
1. You have often found yourself calling women ‘golddiggers’ and wish to have an independent woman who will not need you to secure her or take care of her financial needs.
2. You have often desired your mate to be the sexual aggressor. Your libido is not so steady and you need her to show you that she wants you a little bit more.
So yes, this post is for new Jujumama readers. I have to catch you up! When I first started this blog I was in a regular, monogamous relationship. I don’t mean to make it sound drab. It was fabulous! Monogamy is a workable plan. I wanted it for so long in my teens and when I turned 21, I got it! I married my King! That was almost 14 years ago.
Our relationship was not ordinary. We are both upwardly mobile, Howard University Grads, and trained Shamans in the metaphysical Traditions. Having been trained by elders who practice Polygamy, that is: one poly man and many mono wives, we are familiar with alternative lifestyles; have seen them up close and personal. But we decided not to go that route.
Our decision lasted for 12 strong years until one day, my husband fell in love! I did not know it at the time, but when he fell in love outside our marriage, my ascent to personal liberation began.
You could not have told me that his falling in love would liberate me back then. I would have knocked you out! Mama said knock you out – huuuhh! This was a perilous uphill battle for me.
But this is my Menage a Montage. In this post I summarize my journey into Bliss as best I can… Maybe it will help you in your relationships!
I will tell you with video (coming soon) and words all about how my husband and I got to this point of openness in our marriage. Freedom was at first strange and terrifying – Freedom, finally, feels unimaginable good. I cannot believe I am writing these words… the journey has been life altering.
This did not happen over night and it was a struggle for me to drop the false identity painted onto my skin and into my soul. Mind of my mind, soul of my soul, how did I allow Western Thought to take total control of me? Once, just a short while ago, I blogged about how I should have the right to OWN my husband’s Mind, Body, Soul and most especially, his penis!
It only took three years for my husband to convince me release the pain of the past, the brainwashing of modern times, and open to flow and a new Paradigm. How did he do it? How did we do it? Well, it is a rather interesting tale…
I was Twittering a friend who thinks she may be jinxing her relationship. This friend is quite intuitive because she is right! We are talking about energy here and yes, we do at times jinx relationships, money, career, and friendships with old thoughts from the past: What if he is sleeping around? What if she does not really love me? What if I fail? What if he is playing me? What if the world is coming to an end?
These thoughts seem viable - you buy in.
Here are a few suggestions on how to use the Juju to fix the Jinx…
Scenario: Long distance relationship
Jinx: I don’t trust my partner…
Juju: Now wait just a minute here. You manifested a long term relationship so that you could work on this trust issue. Do not run away from your power. Your power is always in growth.
Look at it this way. If you have a certain finite amount of energy in life and half or more of that energy is tied up in thoughts of fear, then what will you manifest?
You will manifest less than HALF of your true potential. By that I mean you will get half the love, half the money and half the peace all because you continue to choose to focus more than half your energy entertaining questions of fear.
So now that you know you manifested this thing on purpose, let’s talk Juju. If you are willing to think outside the box you have to first begin with your trust in Universal Law. One important law is that we can only get what we give. So look at yourself (I know we are used to focusing on others) but look deep within and ask yourself what are you giving? Are you giving that long distance beau the satisfaction of knowing that he or she can trust you? Are you calling and being sweet and being kind and saying words that = you can trust me? Or when you call are you being suspicious, asking about whereabouts and pondering ways that this person could be messing with you mind – untrustworthy?
I LOVE Facebook! Yesterday I posted “I Want TO Own Him” on my Facebook page. I received a massive response to my writing. Four rather stimulating comments jumped out at me. Here are my thoughts on each boldly eloquent comment! I am in love with the young man who posted these! Amazing!
Read the post “I Want To Own Him” first to make sense of this post…These comments are in response to the idea that maybe human beings are not monogamous, but have been poured into an unnatural relationship mold which causes illness and stagnation. If you enjoyed the article about my wanting to Own my husband, you’ll love the comments below.
It’s a sad state of affairs people. With the infidelity rate at 60% in the United States – yes this is higher than the divorce rate – our culture is experiencing the worst relationship scenario in a long time. Women and men are simply not seeing eye to eye on the issue of fidelity. It is not as simple as we’d all like to conclude: Men just don’t want to be faithful. It is much deeper than this. I am finding quite often that men and women simply desire more than their partner can provide, sexually, mentally and spiritually. I am sure there is a bright side. There is always a bright side, right?
The issue is ownership. Should marriage equate to total ownership of another human being, his mind, body and spirit I mean? When I married at age 21 of course I believed that it did. I wanted to own my husband. I wanted to be his only source for emotional connection on an intimate level, as well, I wanted to own his body just as I suspected he wanted to own mine. I couldn’t see a socially acceptable way around this…but now, maybe like you, I find myself in a severe quandary.
