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So yes, this post is for new Jujumama readers. I have to catch you up! When I first started this blog I was in a regular, monogamous relationship. I don’t mean to make it sound drab. It was fabulous! Monogamy is a workable plan. I wanted it for so long in my teens and when I turned 21, I got it! I married my King! That was almost 14 years ago.
Our relationship was not ordinary. We are both upwardly mobile, Howard University Grads, and trained Shamans in the metaphysical Traditions. Having been trained by elders who practice Polygamy, that is: one poly man and many mono wives, we are familiar with alternative lifestyles; have seen them up close and personal. But we decided not to go that route.
Our decision lasted for 12 strong years until one day, my husband fell in love! I did not know it at the time, but when he fell in love outside our marriage, my ascent to personal liberation began.
You could not have told me that his falling in love would liberate me back then. I would have knocked you out! Mama said knock you out – huuuhh! This was a perilous uphill battle for me.
But this is my Menage a Montage. In this post I summarize my journey into Bliss as best I can… Maybe it will help you in your relationships!
I will tell you with video (coming soon) and words all about how my husband and I got to this point of openness in our marriage. Freedom was at first strange and terrifying – Freedom, finally, feels unimaginable good. I cannot believe I am writing these words… the journey has been life altering.
This did not happen over night and it was a struggle for me to drop the false identity painted onto my skin and into my soul. Mind of my mind, soul of my soul, how did I allow Western Thought to take total control of me? Once, just a short while ago, I blogged about how I should have the right to OWN my husband’s Mind, Body, Soul and most especially, his penis!
It only took three years for my husband to convince me release the pain of the past, the brainwashing of modern times, and open to flow and a new Paradigm. How did he do it? How did we do it? Well, it is a rather interesting tale…
I was Twittering a friend who thinks she may be jinxing her relationship. This friend is quite intuitive because she is right! We are talking about energy here and yes, we do at times jinx relationships, money, career, and friendships with old thoughts from the past: What if he is sleeping around? What if she does not really love me? What if I fail? What if he is playing me? What if the world is coming to an end?
These thoughts seem viable - you buy in.
Here are a few suggestions on how to use the Juju to fix the Jinx…
Scenario: Long distance relationship
Jinx: I don’t trust my partner…
Juju: Now wait just a minute here. You manifested a long term relationship so that you could work on this trust issue. Do not run away from your power. Your power is always in growth.
Look at it this way. If you have a certain finite amount of energy in life and half or more of that energy is tied up in thoughts of fear, then what will you manifest?
You will manifest less than HALF of your true potential. By that I mean you will get half the love, half the money and half the peace all because you continue to choose to focus more than half your energy entertaining questions of fear.
So now that you know you manifested this thing on purpose, let’s talk Juju. If you are willing to think outside the box you have to first begin with your trust in Universal Law. One important law is that we can only get what we give. So look at yourself (I know we are used to focusing on others) but look deep within and ask yourself what are you giving? Are you giving that long distance beau the satisfaction of knowing that he or she can trust you? Are you calling and being sweet and being kind and saying words that = you can trust me? Or when you call are you being suspicious, asking about whereabouts and pondering ways that this person could be messing with you mind – untrustworthy?
I am a black man and a cheater. Not all the time, just every now and then. The itch comes to me, and no matter what my wife does, I still can’t help but want another woman. At least for a night, or two, or three.
I love my wife very much. No woman I’ve ever met or will meet will hold a more important place in my life. I also love my kids, our house, my job and the fish in my daughter’s room. I love everything about my life at home, even though my relationship has become dull and rocky. But while I love having a strong black family, I also love being a man, and there is a part of me that just can’t handle monogamy.
I see alot of misinformation in Essence and other black women’s magazines about men and what we want. It’s silly to me, because women don’t know a thing about us. At the same time, they spend all their time talking about us. They always think they have us figured out, that we can be changed, and that they can come up with some magic formula that will control us and make us want to give them all the blissful matrimony they are seeking.
They couldn’t be more wrong.
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