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So yes, this post is for new Jujumama readers. I have to catch you up! When I first started this blog I was in a regular, monogamous relationship. I don’t mean to make it sound drab. It was fabulous! Monogamy is a workable plan. I wanted it for so long in my teens and when I turned 21, I got it! I married my King! That was almost 14 years ago.
Our relationship was not ordinary. We are both upwardly mobile, Howard University Grads, and trained Shamans in the metaphysical Traditions. Having been trained by elders who practice Polygamy, that is: one poly man and many mono wives, we are familiar with alternative lifestyles; have seen them up close and personal. But we decided not to go that route.
Our decision lasted for 12 strong years until one day, my husband fell in love! I did not know it at the time, but when he fell in love outside our marriage, my ascent to personal liberation began.
You could not have told me that his falling in love would liberate me back then. I would have knocked you out! Mama said knock you out – huuuhh! This was a perilous uphill battle for me.
But this is my Menage a Montage. In this post I summarize my journey into Bliss as best I can… Maybe it will help you in your relationships!
I will tell you with video (coming soon) and words all about how my husband and I got to this point of openness in our marriage. Freedom was at first strange and terrifying – Freedom, finally, feels unimaginable good. I cannot believe I am writing these words… the journey has been life altering.
This did not happen over night and it was a struggle for me to drop the false identity painted onto my skin and into my soul. Mind of my mind, soul of my soul, how did I allow Western Thought to take total control of me? Once, just a short while ago, I blogged about how I should have the right to OWN my husband’s Mind, Body, Soul and most especially, his penis!
It only took three years for my husband to convince me release the pain of the past, the brainwashing of modern times, and open to flow and a new Paradigm. How did he do it? How did we do it? Well, it is a rather interesting tale…
I LOVE Facebook! Yesterday I posted “I Want TO Own Him” on my Facebook page. I received a massive response to my writing. Four rather stimulating comments jumped out at me. Here are my thoughts on each boldly eloquent comment! I am in love with the young man who posted these! Amazing!
Read the post “I Want To Own Him” first to make sense of this post…These comments are in response to the idea that maybe human beings are not monogamous, but have been poured into an unnatural relationship mold which causes illness and stagnation. If you enjoyed the article about my wanting to Own my husband, you’ll love the comments below.
It’s a sad state of affairs people. With the infidelity rate at 60% in the United States – yes this is higher than the divorce rate – our culture is experiencing the worst relationship scenario in a long time. Women and men are simply not seeing eye to eye on the issue of fidelity. It is not as simple as we’d all like to conclude: Men just don’t want to be faithful. It is much deeper than this. I am finding quite often that men and women simply desire more than their partner can provide, sexually, mentally and spiritually. I am sure there is a bright side. There is always a bright side, right?
The issue is ownership. Should marriage equate to total ownership of another human being, his mind, body and spirit I mean? When I married at age 21 of course I believed that it did. I wanted to own my husband. I wanted to be his only source for emotional connection on an intimate level, as well, I wanted to own his body just as I suspected he wanted to own mine. I couldn’t see a socially acceptable way around this…but now, maybe like you, I find myself in a severe quandary.
