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Wow!I have had a busy two weeks. Do you like this sample of our latest photos? We’re moving to NYC! So we’ve been in ATL for two weeks to close out our living there and get packed for the Big Apple.While there, I had a few awesome experiences. I thought they were valuable and you may enjoy peeping in… giggle.
My fun began the second day that I was back to Atlanta.We were staying at a hotel in Buckhead and there was this cool little Diner nearby.A friend on Twitter told me that my Tweets were featured in RedBook Magazine!So I rushed on over the CVS to pick it up!With book in hand I went to the little Diner to eat and read!
When I walked in there was this amazingly beautiful man standing right there, right in the doorway. He seemed to be the host of the restaurant, but later I found that he was the owner – or at least his parents owned the place…
“Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.” ~Hindu Prince Gautama Siddharta, the founder of Buddhism, 563-483 B.C.
Monday was my 14th wedding anniversary and I cried all freaking morning… I cried because I felt old – too old to do what I thought I wanted to do when I was younger, which is to grow up to be my mother. I felt, frankly, like I had a choice at this junction – to be her or to be me… I felt old because I was being just like her on the morning of my anniversary – somehow – I was thinking like, looking like and being like my mother… just all of a sudden! OMG. It was really eerie. There were, literally, two me’s living in my body that morning and it was like the real me had to choose to let her go forever…
Post By: Makeisha Phillips – Contributing Writer – this story is raw, real, beautiful, blissful… We feel you DIVA!
Living an authentic life. What does that mean? Everyday I rise and think of how I can grow and be better and yet sometimes I don’t know if some of the things I want to do symbolize growth or deterioration. Despite my best efforts to rise above it I am still confronted with the realities of living in a society that is riddled with lines drawn in the sand and limitations. The male/yang dominated ideas of womanhood and goodness. These ideas follow me when I pass the kitchen and have no desire to cook, they follow me when I yearn in the night for a lovers touch.
I question the sanctity of my body and my choices to share or not share. The arbitrary definitions of words such as mother, wife, lover, friend, partner, sister….. I wish to define these things for myself. Yet I vacillate because I don’t want to address the question marks in the eyes of those who have known me till today. I think most of us, at least I do, want to live a life free of shame and guilt. I want to know that the love and affection I feel with and for others is not dependent on my adherence to the status quo.
What if I choose to love with reckless abandon? Does that make me less worthy of a life long partnership with someone who can accept me fully. How do I live life for all that its worth, experiencing all that my heart has the capacity to hold, and not suffer the consequences of getting out of line with the communal expectation? Were not all trail blazers somewhat ostracized? I mean Einstein, GW Carver, and others were all considered different. People didn’t always get it when they shared their process and the way they saw the world…
“Once you have started seeing the beauty of life, ugliness starts disappearing. If you start looking at life with joy, sadness starts disappearing. You cannot have heaven and hell together, you can have only one. It is your choice.” – Osho
Did I tell you guys what happened last Thursday? No? Oh for shame. This is a good one, especially for those of you considering the life of Progressive Love. This is a situation that marks the writes of passage of an individual moving away from the Western, cookie cutter paradigm into a new world order…
So I had a client in town from Miami. I saw him on the 45th floor of the Westin in downtown Atlanta. Hawt! I was there to work with he and his estranged wife. The work had gone well, I had arrived at 5:00 PM and left at 3:00 AM. Lots of healing work happening and lots of awakening!
My husband had a Tantra client that evening – a young lady expecting a child. She had a great time unraveling some of the fears she has in relating to her husband and other men. Fabulous! Right?
So I come home at about 3:30 AM only to find the door bolted shut from the inside. I turned my key in the keyhole only to find that I was locked out. Figuring my husband was sleeping, I went ahead and tried the sliding glass door. Peeking in from the outside, I saw two figures scrambling to get dressed? OMG? So I came back to the front door and was this time greeted by my husband…
Many believe that Jujumama goes hard on the women. Some believe I go hard on the guys. Lesbians think I am hetero centered and I have not heard from any gay men, so I don’t know… but I am in the center of all of that so please get it straight. I go hard on Western Cultural relationships. They do not work – for the most part… and stats prove it. A 60% divorce rate = for the most part. Yes?
Anywhoooo. I have to crack open another double standard tonight. But it is of it’s own making. Western culture is male based and so this one is sort of to be expected. Men get the short in of the stick in many matters of the heart. For instance – divorce – I see it all of the time. Women get upset at the man because he is acting out… Women, you know, they want a divorce. Right? But often, the men began going to the strip club, “cheating” (which is the silliest concept I ever heard in my life) or being violent based on other circumstances. Circumstances that involve women…
“I found god in myself and loved her. I loved her fiercely.”— Ntosake Shanghe
Ummmm. Yes! I am outside at Caribou, it’s 1:00 AM and I am loving Atlanta! I have a few juicy secrets for you… I have a few new lovers and I am totally blissed about it. LOL! I have an itch to have you know me. I want you to know me so that you might know yourself even better… That is why I blog.
So since I last wrote about my personal life I was there on the swing with my hubby at Peidmont Park wondering why I was so freaking angry. Since that serious growth point, I have been more myself. I have expanded my feminine horizons and enjoyed sweet love taking me higher, onward, to the blissful heights we were all meant to soar…
So I have a lover, right, his name is not what I want to share. His energy is. His energy is so strong that the first time we shared love, I could not move. I mean, I was literally paralyzed by his magical spirit. His light touched the deepness parts of my outer womb. I felt as though I would faint, or gag, or be lifted into a bliss I had never before known, what would that be like? I could not take a risk, would I lose my mind with joy? Many women have issues allowing pleasure when it comes… It took me four hours to open to it… I had to move slowly not to pass out, my mind fiddled with our connection, between the voice and breath… where had I known him before… I had to have known this awesome soul once before…
So I have loads of people asking me this question. I mean the emails are off the hook! Why don’t you lovely people leave comments instead of these private emails? That’s the first way I know you may not be ready. Ready for what, you say? Ready for Universal Love, ready for the New Paradigm relationship, ready for expansion, luscious, sweet, delicious expansion!
OK – so you know by now if you have spent any time on this blog, that my husband and I have an open relationship. Now you also know that I fought it for a long time until I surrendered to myself, my truest self, my most lovely, divine, feminine self! And now? Well, now I am enjoying the bliss of love at new levels. I need to share some stories, maybe I will. Have been to busy to give the juicy details of my love life. WOW! That’s all I can really say…
But the emails I get are people asking me how do they know if their relationship is ready for the open thing. I caution them, most relationships are not ready. Here is a little ole checklist of attributes that I would say serve as prerequisites for this type of love… expanded and blissful love. Now mind you, some relationships will never be ready and that too is OK. This is not for everyone, but what is? LOL!
OK – so here is the list. Whether you are in a marriage or a committed relationship or single, the list still applies…
Wow - I was just feeling badly today, getting tired, thinking that I am a visionary, a misunderstood one at that, and that my ideas are just ahead of their time… I mean my entire purpose seems to run contrary to the current scheme of relating Read the rest of this entry »
So last night I was in the need for a little Tantric Bliss…
I work around the clock as CEO, CFO, Marketing Director, Blogger, Mother, Wet Nurse, Wife, Energy Healer, Tantrica, Manager of 5 Virtual Assistants, Book Distributor, Twitter Queen, Lover, Event Coordinator, Motivational Speaker, Web Developer, Friend, Counselor, PR Director, Publicist, Brand Manager, Laundry Maid, and of course Goddess/DIVA.
So I was like REALLY in need last night. Do ya’ll feel me? LOL!
I have been for the past few days in need of a REAL session. I desire to be more than loved, I desire to be worshiped!
Now, before you call me blasphemous, hear me out. Human beings – all of us, I dare say – need to be worshiped from time to time.
This entails another human being (or two – whatever ;~) adoring and adorning your body, mind and soul, sending healing vibrations into your soul, speaking strings of kind words into your heart, acknowledging you, sensually, and in every way! Often we think we need to have a main lover or serious partner to do this. But that is old school, old paradigm thought!
LOVE HEALS! How often do you get it in? LOL! Here is how it works…
So this is a touchy subject. I have been told that my posts are really long… good, but long. LOL! Short n Sweet is not type of blog I run. I do not play by the rules, that’s is OK. I guess. I reject ALL Blogging rules! So there! There are a few things about rules that I absolutely LOVE! There are a few things about Human Rules that I have chosen to love from a distance (not for my life, thank you very much! But for others, fabulous!)
So this topic came up when Tweets flooded in about how hubby and I might go about setting up boundaries in our open relationship; and indeed how to set up rules in ANY relationship. I had to give em the skinny. But now I extend the thesis beyond 70 characters just for you! (Crowd goes wild!!!)
So let us look at the difference and the similarity between Universal Law and Human Rules.
We will answer this question: What is the purpose for Human Law/Rules? What is Universal Law?
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