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Wow!I have had a busy two weeks. Do you like this sample of our latest photos? We’re moving to NYC! So we’ve been in ATL for two weeks to close out our living there and get packed for the Big Apple.While there, I had a few awesome experiences. I thought they were valuable and you may enjoy peeping in… giggle.
My fun began the second day that I was back to Atlanta.We were staying at a hotel in Buckhead and there was this cool little Diner nearby.A friend on Twitter told me that my Tweets were featured in RedBook Magazine!So I rushed on over the CVS to pick it up!With book in hand I went to the little Diner to eat and read!
When I walked in there was this amazingly beautiful man standing right there, right in the doorway. He seemed to be the host of the restaurant, but later I found that he was the owner – or at least his parents owned the place…
WOW! This is the first year in 14 years that I did not have birthday sex. Usually I trip about the entire thing. This year, I have evolved… My husband was out doing a tantra session after our HUGE DC Event last night. The Sexiest Seminar went long in DC and then we had an after party on U Street. Fabulous!
After the after party, there was a woman who wanted a personal tantra session. My husband reluctantly asked me if it was OK to do this on my birthday, I suppose he recounted the years I have gone completely ballistic when he ignored my conditioned behavior pattern of wanting sex specifically on my birthday. He recalls the times I tripped out when it didn’t seem to be forthcoming. He seemed fearful in the asking, but I said YES. YES, go and have a session with this lovely young lady. This is your job…
Here is the note I got today from a young lady concerned about virginity…
Kenya
I’ve always been taught to “wait” for the “right” person to have sex with and I do believe in monogamy. Lately I’ve been reading your blog and I know you talk about attraction and opportunity. I’m 19 years old and have never had sex. The opportunity of sex has always been there, but there was no one I ever felt it would be “right” with. I thought I would be in a relationship with a man, fall in love, etc. then have sex with him. But for the first time I’ve met a man whom I have no desire to be in a relationship with but I am extremely attracted to him mentally, physically and emotionally. I know that we attract what we are but I can’t seem to figure this one out. I admit that I am nervous about being alone with him because there is no doubt that I would give myself to him. I know I would not regret it because I don’t regret any decisions that I make, instead I simply learn from them. I don’t agree with everything you say but I am open to all that you say. With that being said I would appreciate some insight on this.
Thank you,
Anonymous
I have replied below… Thanks!
We cannot serve our purpose when anchored to a prevailing mindset that does not serve our purpose ~ J.S. Perkins
Wow – so last night was interesting. I had a couple to counsel whom are on the verge of divorce. I love these two human beings, they are both so wonderful. However, like most of us, they are unwilling to go beyond their comfort zones. She is unwilling to even consider a reconciliation because she is so angry and hurt. I do not know what he is unwilling to do. So far he has been willing to do just about anything I suggest, maybe his unwillingness was in the relationship – he was passive aggressive and had done loads of covert things to her that she is now fed up with… She called it manipulation.
And it ain’t just them, it’s so many couples going through similar issues. Years and years of built up emotion, unresolved and unsettled stuff just looming in the minds of both partners… I think it is imperative that we get these things out on the table. I do it through a process I call the Three Way Mirror. Now to just get her to come along and participate…
“I found god in myself and loved her. I loved her fiercely.”— Ntosake Shanghe
Ummmm. Yes! I am outside at Caribou, it’s 1:00 AM and I am loving Atlanta! I have a few juicy secrets for you… I have a few new lovers and I am totally blissed about it. LOL! I have an itch to have you know me. I want you to know me so that you might know yourself even better… That is why I blog.
So since I last wrote about my personal life I was there on the swing with my hubby at Peidmont Park wondering why I was so freaking angry. Since that serious growth point, I have been more myself. I have expanded my feminine horizons and enjoyed sweet love taking me higher, onward, to the blissful heights we were all meant to soar…
So I have a lover, right, his name is not what I want to share. His energy is. His energy is so strong that the first time we shared love, I could not move. I mean, I was literally paralyzed by his magical spirit. His light touched the deepness parts of my outer womb. I felt as though I would faint, or gag, or be lifted into a bliss I had never before known, what would that be like? I could not take a risk, would I lose my mind with joy? Many women have issues allowing pleasure when it comes… It took me four hours to open to it… I had to move slowly not to pass out, my mind fiddled with our connection, between the voice and breath… where had I known him before… I had to have known this awesome soul once before…
“I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality Read the rest of this entry »
OK – So what is the deal people? Can someone help me understand when we are going to get rid of this dated concept of manipulation. I mean, this one went out with corsets (well, corsets are sexy, except when they break your ribs). Let’s see, this one went out with ceramic shingles (well, those are sort of elegant). OK fine, this one went out with the concept of BLAME. Nothing pretty about blaming someone else for any part of your life right?
Same senselessness in choosing to believe in another dying paradigm – Manipulation. SO we’re gonna look at this because we have to. Men and women alike are afraid to be called a manipulator. Yet, we want to master the Law of Attraction, we want to become Creators of our lives. But, the two concepts do not fit together ~ manifestation and manipulation. Blame is the essence of manipulation. If someone is “manipulating” another or (heaven forbid) manipulating you, then you do not believe that you create your life. You in fact believe in the concept of blame… right?
No one is doing anything to us. We are creating everything for ourselves. AND, when we ladies put on that feminine energy and shine it into the world, we are not ‘doing anything’ to anyone, we are simply using our natural talent to manifest our desires quickly and easily! Feminine magnetism is MAGICAL!
How can we think that working magic in our lives to create what we desire can be a form of manipulation? Come now.
Why is there is a certain embarrassment or even shame that is connected with sexual dysfunction? No one would be ashamed to have, for example, a liver or heart dysfunction. One would be sad but not embarrassed and one would immediately ask a professional for help. Read the rest of this entry »
Dear Wonderful Men,
I am writing on behalf of all women (I hope). This letter is especially oriented for men in relationships with women, long term relationships, marriages and short term relationships for that matter! I want to talk about your desire to have more. We all want more. More love, more freedom, more fun! We honor you. We want that too. Everyone wants to feel free and happy, right?
Let me explain a few things to you that will surely get that DIVA you are working with on the right page about the relationship. She needs your love and I know you need her respect and both of you can have BOTH! Easy as pie!
The trick is simple. In this letter, I offer four ways for you to take your relationship to the next level.
I guess I’m talking to men today because of all the emails I get from men who say:
“Kenya K, I want my wife or lover to open up in the ways you have to your husband – but she won’t let me do anything like that. She would kill me if she knew I were writing you!”
I guess these men are talking about the open relationship piece. But there are a few things that must be in tact in a primary relationship before women will even consider doing anything outside the norm. Women are VERY conservative.
This is from the heart…
I am currently doing a large spread on The Erotic Life of Women prior to Patriarchal Rule… Here is a prelude to a Kiss my lovelies… I found this article online and it is spot on! The ancient art of ambrosia (female ejaculation) is a resurging mystery that intrigues more and more modern-day people. Esoteric traditions (Tantric and Taoist) and western science have many perspectives on this form of female sexual expression. Both perspectives have value in shedding light on this at once controversial and mysterious topic. To more fully understand female ejaculation, an exploration into the nature of female sexual essence is necessary. YIN is symbolized by the ocean or water, and a woman’s essence is a living example of this: deep, mysterious, fluid. The power of the Feminine/YIN sexual energy can be frightening; from having the ability to host another life within her to accessing what seems like limitless bliss. In the Taoist traditions YIN is considered inexhaustible, cool, earthy, receptive and fertile. Today, most women have lost contact with their deeper YIN essence having been encouraged to primarily cultivate the YANG, or more surface aspects of themselves. This is largely due to the lack of broader sex education, early social conditioning, and religious dogma. As advanced as our society is, our understanding of sexual energy and its Read the rest of this entry »
