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“Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.” ~Hindu Prince Gautama Siddharta, the founder of Buddhism, 563-483 B.C.
Monday was my 14th wedding anniversary and I cried all freaking morning… I cried because I felt old – too old to do what I thought I wanted to do when I was younger, which is to grow up to be my mother. I felt, frankly, like I had a choice at this junction – to be her or to be me… I felt old because I was being just like her on the morning of my anniversary – somehow – I was thinking like, looking like and being like my mother… just all of a sudden! OMG. It was really eerie. There were, literally, two me’s living in my body that morning and it was like the real me had to choose to let her go forever…
Man oh Man! I am so excited! I just realized that I (Yes, lil ole ME!!) want a boyfriend in every city I visit! You guys know I am on tour – LOL! I desire a luscious man, at least one, in everywhere I travel… And why not? I have NYC and ATL covered, and Charlotte was good, DC was aight… but you know… That’s only four of the twelve cities I visited this summer. I mean, I know I just accepted this new “open” life of mine, and you know I left the world of monogamy kicking and screaming. But giiirrrlll, once you go ‘Universal Love’ – you never come back to the personal ownership drama. Sorry folks to burst the Puritan bubble. I have to just tell you the truth! It’s good to know that I can explore my sacred sensuality and divine ONENESS with ALL in new ways and with luscious men all the while…
Post By: Makeisha Phillips – Contributing Writer – this story is raw, real, beautiful, blissful… We feel you DIVA!
Living an authentic life. What does that mean? Everyday I rise and think of how I can grow and be better and yet sometimes I don’t know if some of the things I want to do symbolize growth or deterioration. Despite my best efforts to rise above it I am still confronted with the realities of living in a society that is riddled with lines drawn in the sand and limitations. The male/yang dominated ideas of womanhood and goodness. These ideas follow me when I pass the kitchen and have no desire to cook, they follow me when I yearn in the night for a lovers touch.
I question the sanctity of my body and my choices to share or not share. The arbitrary definitions of words such as mother, wife, lover, friend, partner, sister….. I wish to define these things for myself. Yet I vacillate because I don’t want to address the question marks in the eyes of those who have known me till today. I think most of us, at least I do, want to live a life free of shame and guilt. I want to know that the love and affection I feel with and for others is not dependent on my adherence to the status quo.
What if I choose to love with reckless abandon? Does that make me less worthy of a life long partnership with someone who can accept me fully. How do I live life for all that its worth, experiencing all that my heart has the capacity to hold, and not suffer the consequences of getting out of line with the communal expectation? Were not all trail blazers somewhat ostracized? I mean Einstein, GW Carver, and others were all considered different. People didn’t always get it when they shared their process and the way they saw the world…
Thought It Was Me by Bell Biv Devoe – 1985
I was listening to this song the other day and thinking what an interesting subject it makes. Why do men feel that if a woman is warm, fuzzy, blissful, orgasmic, and happy with him that she should not be this way with ALL men, ALL people, in fact!? Why would a man want a woman who is happy with him and then indifferent to the rest of the world? Can she be happy, blissful and free in general? Or just with him?…
“Once you have started seeing the beauty of life, ugliness starts disappearing. If you start looking at life with joy, sadness starts disappearing. You cannot have heaven and hell together, you can have only one. It is your choice.” – Osho
Did I tell you guys what happened last Thursday? No? Oh for shame. This is a good one, especially for those of you considering the life of Progressive Love. This is a situation that marks the writes of passage of an individual moving away from the Western, cookie cutter paradigm into a new world order…
So I had a client in town from Miami. I saw him on the 45th floor of the Westin in downtown Atlanta. Hawt! I was there to work with he and his estranged wife. The work had gone well, I had arrived at 5:00 PM and left at 3:00 AM. Lots of healing work happening and lots of awakening!
My husband had a Tantra client that evening – a young lady expecting a child. She had a great time unraveling some of the fears she has in relating to her husband and other men. Fabulous! Right?
So I come home at about 3:30 AM only to find the door bolted shut from the inside. I turned my key in the keyhole only to find that I was locked out. Figuring my husband was sleeping, I went ahead and tried the sliding glass door. Peeking in from the outside, I saw two figures scrambling to get dressed? OMG? So I came back to the front door and was this time greeted by my husband…
So ladies. Let’s talk. Whats all this I hear about low libido women? When I walk on the streets certain people know who I am and maybe they read my blog. They tell me that I am a brave woman for having an open relationship. But they ask me one question or make one simple statement: “I don’t like sex that much. I don’t even feel like having sex with the one man I have”. OK?
What’s up with that?
For some, this is a statement of validation. I am female, I don’t like sex. A credo of sorts that is simply old news in my book. For others this is a statement of defeat. I just don’t get into that… But for me – I am hearing something deeper in the voices of women everywhere who have come to me with this situation – low libido…
“I found god in myself and loved her. I loved her fiercely.”— Ntosake Shanghe
Ummmm. Yes! I am outside at Caribou, it’s 1:00 AM and I am loving Atlanta! I have a few juicy secrets for you… I have a few new lovers and I am totally blissed about it. LOL! I have an itch to have you know me. I want you to know me so that you might know yourself even better… That is why I blog.
So since I last wrote about my personal life I was there on the swing with my hubby at Peidmont Park wondering why I was so freaking angry. Since that serious growth point, I have been more myself. I have expanded my feminine horizons and enjoyed sweet love taking me higher, onward, to the blissful heights we were all meant to soar…
So I have a lover, right, his name is not what I want to share. His energy is. His energy is so strong that the first time we shared love, I could not move. I mean, I was literally paralyzed by his magical spirit. His light touched the deepness parts of my outer womb. I felt as though I would faint, or gag, or be lifted into a bliss I had never before known, what would that be like? I could not take a risk, would I lose my mind with joy? Many women have issues allowing pleasure when it comes… It took me four hours to open to it… I had to move slowly not to pass out, my mind fiddled with our connection, between the voice and breath… where had I known him before… I had to have known this awesome soul once before…
So I have loads of people asking me this question. I mean the emails are off the hook! Why don’t you lovely people leave comments instead of these private emails? That’s the first way I know you may not be ready. Ready for what, you say? Ready for Universal Love, ready for the New Paradigm relationship, ready for expansion, luscious, sweet, delicious expansion!
OK – so you know by now if you have spent any time on this blog, that my husband and I have an open relationship. Now you also know that I fought it for a long time until I surrendered to myself, my truest self, my most lovely, divine, feminine self! And now? Well, now I am enjoying the bliss of love at new levels. I need to share some stories, maybe I will. Have been to busy to give the juicy details of my love life. WOW! That’s all I can really say…
But the emails I get are people asking me how do they know if their relationship is ready for the open thing. I caution them, most relationships are not ready. Here is a little ole checklist of attributes that I would say serve as prerequisites for this type of love… expanded and blissful love. Now mind you, some relationships will never be ready and that too is OK. This is not for everyone, but what is? LOL!
OK – so here is the list. Whether you are in a marriage or a committed relationship or single, the list still applies…
Wow - I was just feeling badly today, getting tired, thinking that I am a visionary, a misunderstood one at that, and that my ideas are just ahead of their time… I mean my entire purpose seems to run contrary to the current scheme of relating Read the rest of this entry »
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I just gave birth to my wonderful son about six weeks ago. During the healing process I have done what I think most women should do I told my husband that he needed to find himself a young lady or I would find him a young lady that he could be intimate with so that his sexual apetitite could be fulfilled….
