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OK – so the title is obnoxious but I had to sing it loud! My Way and I’m Proud! But not so much any more. Why is it that I still have the itch to have everything in my relationship to go my way?
SO last night I was unbraiding my husband’s hair and he was just sitting there on the computer with the earphones listening to the latest in movie previews. I am not interested AT ALL in movies because they freak me out. I am a trance DIVA so I feel like I am IN the movie or that the movie is happening to ME! So I steer clear of movies. (I recall watching the matrix and then thinking that the special agents were going to come and get me! I know, crazy. But whatever).
Now mind you, my husband and I are like OOOBER busy, so I thought that by taking his hair out, we could spend some time talking to one another and to the kids. SO I dreamed up this huge fairy tale in my mind about me taking his braids out as he reads books to the kids who hardly ever see us with our travel and work schedules.
NOT!
As the reality unfolded I realized that my husband did not have concept or clue about my wishes and desires. And so when I asked him to read the kids a story as I did his hair, he said, flat out, and blatantly NO. WHAT? NO? Well why the hell not? I was about to have a fit when I recalled what was happening – again – and decided to become awake in the moment!
Now I was really mad – HELL YES! But did I have to follow the anger emotion and let it wreck havoc in my relationship? HELL NO. Did I have to disrespect him in front of the children and question him, or badger him until he complied? Well, not this time….
Here are the three steps to resolving the incessant need to have it YOOUUUURRRR WWAAAYYYYY!
Dear Wonderful Men,
I am writing on behalf of all women (I hope). This letter is especially oriented for men in relationships with women, long term relationships, marriages and short term relationships for that matter! I want to talk about your desire to have more. We all want more. More love, more freedom, more fun! We honor you. We want that too. Everyone wants to feel free and happy, right?
Let me explain a few things to you that will surely get that DIVA you are working with on the right page about the relationship. She needs your love and I know you need her respect and both of you can have BOTH! Easy as pie!
The trick is simple. In this letter, I offer four ways for you to take your relationship to the next level.
I guess I’m talking to men today because of all the emails I get from men who say:
“Kenya K, I want my wife or lover to open up in the ways you have to your husband – but she won’t let me do anything like that. She would kill me if she knew I were writing you!”
I guess these men are talking about the open relationship piece. But there are a few things that must be in tact in a primary relationship before women will even consider doing anything outside the norm. Women are VERY conservative.
This is from the heart…
Wooooooow! As you know the Equinox happened Friday evening, March 20. Many cultures take this time to give something up or fast such as in Lint and Ramadan. I too decided to give something up. I am giving up the word NO as a first response. Period. So my ritual was simple. I was told by Source to go out ALONE into the world on a Friday Night and say YES to life. YES, say YES to life. See that I can trust the Universe to protect me. A spiritual practice…
Here is an image of me as I prepared for that evening. I purchased a special dress for this occasion. Spirit told me to wear white, so I bought a sassy white sweater dress from Banana Republic. I did not think a Lapa would quite do the trick. LOL! It is totally possible to do a private fasting ritual in a public place and look hot while doing it! OK? Yes We Can.
My husband literally dropped me off downtown at 10:00 PM. I was alone. He took me to the Four Seasons Hotel where I would start my evening at the Celebrity Chocolate Affair. This was really fun! My work? My ritual? My Mantra? YES YES YES. I did this ritual from 10:00 Friday – 5:00 AM Saturday Morning. The results? Amazing!
The first objective I wanted to achieve in doing this is to prove to myself that I trust my very favorite Universal Law: We Only Attract Who and What We Are – Each person we attract is there for a purpose – to evolve us.
You see, I had been having a problem trusting the people who walk into my life when I know full and darned well that if I trust this basic Universal premise, then I have nothing at all to worry about in terms of who I meet. I am meeting myself every time. I am meeting like vibration.
Maybe you too struggle with trust issues that stem from a lack of faith in Universal Order and then a lack of trust for even yourself (been there) both of which lead to lack of trust in others.
So to go out into the world, ALONE, on a Friday Night with no car, no plans, no companions and looking like dis was quite a ritual. I would simply BE in places, SEE what comes, WATCH who comes and OBSERVE my own ability to say YES to it all. Why not? Why not say yes to all the Me’s I meet? Why not? Why not? (my nervous energy has me stuttering)
I knew I would be challenged, but I am committed to being a YES girl. YES to life at last! Yes We Can.
Check out my wild and sexy and hilarious Equinox adventure!
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